Episode 50: CCD Workbooks

Sarah and Christine dive into a mix of humorous anecdotes and heartfelt discussions on mental health, the chaos of parenting, and the science of change. From soccer parenting rants to navigating family doctor visits, the hosts keep it light-hearted while exploring deeper subject matter. They also introduce their latest book, 'Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself' by Dr. Joe Dispenza, discussing quantum physics, neuroplasticity, and the power of thoughts and emotions. Join us for laughter, real talk, and a journey toward self-improvement!

How to find mental health help when you're struggling. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
https://washingtoncountyhumanservices.com/agencies/behavioral-health-developmental-services
https://www.alleghenycounty.us/Services/Human-Services-DHS/Publications/Resource-Guides
Apps - Just search mental health where you get your apps.
EAP programs are a great place to look for help!!

Additional Resources (Sports Related):
https://globalsportmatters.com/health/2020/12/04/mental-health-resources-2/

Transcript

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Welcome to The Mental Funny Bone, a podcast where mental health meets humor, heart, and a healthy dose of laughter. We're here to talk about the tough stuff, laugh at the awkward stuff, and remind you and ourselves that it's okay to not be okay. So settle in, take a breath, and let's normalize the mess. One ridiculous story and real conversation at a time. I'm Sarah, I'm Christine, and neither of us are mental health professionals, although we do recommend that you see a mental health professional because everyone can benefit from that. Amen. Regardless of, uh, regardless of diagnoses, it's just nice to talk to somebody who isn't buried in your problems with you. It's nice like when the Coast Guard comes along and pulls you out of the ocean while you're there clinging to each other and trying to drown each other, it's nice. If the Coast Guard comes along and picks one of you up, I would definitely be stepping on your head to get on the Coast Guard. Right? You sure would. Boat sure would. First are you kidding? While you just'cause it's who we are would probably be pushing my foot up. Like to help me get in the boat. I would be drawing you. Thank God she's stepping on my chest.'cause it'll be easier to get my arms under that. Yes, yes. There you have it. Yeah. And check out some links that we have in our show notes. I think they're still there. Still there. Still there? Okay. I, um, we've worked really hard on those for three days. I didn't upload of some sort one of our recent episodes. Apparently I didn't do do it to the YouTubes though. I don't, I don't know what I'm doing, so I'm gonna, I'm gonna open the YouTubes and make sure that I have that open so I can fix it in three days when I shut my computer down. Okay, perfect. You do that too, Sarah. Do you leave like a hundred tabs open on your computer? I do. And then I find them and I go, Ooh, shit, most of them, I, it was just something I wanted to read. So when I find it, I end up going, well, that was four weeks ago and I'm no longer fucking interested in that. So I will just close it. Pretty much, Amanda. That was key. That's super important. Early April pretty, because I have, I have a few up here right now. Uh, there's some coaching things and some mindful exercises. Those tabs have been open for weeks. Weeks. This one I just opened this morning'cause I wanted to talk about it. It was, it's, uh, soccer parenting.com parent behavior at youth sports events. A call for change, dear Lord in Heaven. What? Yep. I mean, we've talked about it here a bunch of times. I have lived it. Yeah. You have lived it. Yeah. Yeah, parents stop being fucking assholes. They're kids. Let them play. The majority of them are not going to make a profession of whatever fucking sport. You're watching them. So just let them play. Can you do that? Can you do that without being an asshole or your own kid and all the other fucking kids on the, on the court, on the field, whatever. Whatever the hell they are, leave everybody alone. Watch them, cheer them on. If you can't do that, drop them off at the field and come back and get them when the game is over. It's super simple. And those referees, those referees are, again, this isn't a professional game. They're they, they've fall. I know they get paid, but they get paid. I highly doubt they, at this level, they're not getting paid very much. This professionals, their full time, this is not their full-time career. And believe me, when they up in the evening or a Saturday, a call, they didn't wake up that morning and go, you know what, I'm gonna fuck over Timmy, these, this soccer game tonight. You bet. We are. We'll make sure, we'll make sure Timmy doesn't get into Rutgers. Yeah. You know how much that referee gives a fuck about Timmy? He doesn't. He doesn't. Doesn't at all. I still, Becca, we'll have to put this picture of on Substack, speaking of referees and interactions with athletes, there's a really good picture of my daughter playing a college, uh, sporting event and looking at the referee like he just stole her lunch money. Like it's the best. Mm-hmm. Yeah. If there is one picture that sums up Olivia's entire, uh, soccer career, it might be be that picture of her looking at the referee, like, I don't even know what you're talking about. Yeah. Oh my God, she punched herself in the face. Just gonna say, I thought it was totally fine for me to punch her in the face. What do you mean that's not okay? Yeah, back to the, back to the parent story. So I will say having a little bit of perspective on this, you know,'cause Olivia's done with all of it and I was thinking back how that like Olivia's athlete time, it consumed every waking moment of my life for about eight years and now there's none of that and it is all gone. And I really wish I would've been less fucking uptight about everything. So that is my advice to soccer parents. Becca, keep it in mind. Tuck it in your back pocket. It only lasts for a little while. I felt like I might be on the opposite end of that. Like now Owen started to talk about going to college and I'm like, fuck. Like you didn't wanna go to college before and now he, all of a sudden he wants to go to college and like wants to play soccer. And I'm like, I don't know what I'm supposed to do. And he had to go, I can help you. Like a, he had to go to a thing where they talked to him about what you need to do. I was like, well, back in the day, they coaches just came to our games. I don't what you have to, you need a, you need a, you need highlight video. What do you, where are we highlighting? What are we highlight? I don't how many what? Are you good enough? I don't. Hmm. So yeah, so I might have the opposite problem that I haven't really given that much of a shit. And now here we are. I mean, there's a, there's a balance somewhere between these two, I think. Yeah.'cause I do remember the highlight video and going, I didn't, I didn't record every single thing. Like now I have to find the, and the, the guy's like, I didn't record anything. Just so you know, they're, they're recorded somewhere. You, you get'em from the school or whatever. I mean, they're, they're out there. Yeah, that's, that's what Owen said. He'll be able to find shit. Right. And I guess all their FC games are recorded. I don't know. Yeah. I mean, all the victory ones were Sorry. I just only assumed that that is the case. Yeah, that was the, that was the trick. He was like, uh, yeah. Get, get one of her doing this and get one of her doing this and get one of her doing this. And I was like, yeah, my dude, there are literally 40 games here and each of those games is two hours long. Yeah. I have a job. Yeah, Owen's gonna have to, Owen's gonna have to do that. I'm whispering'cause I think he's outside the door. But he's gonna have to do that.'cause I, I have this farm game that I have to play every night for at least two hours. And I have this book called The Fourth Wing that I, that I need to read. I just bought last night, I just bought the latest Hunger Games book. It's Hamish's story. So I don't have a lot of, like, there are important things like farm games and animals, not animals, books, farm games and books and not books for this podcast, like books. Either young adult books or pornographic books or whatever. One's about dragons. Mm-hmm. And then I fell for this on Facebook. Oh no. Oh no. I'm excited about it though. Is that, yeah. I mean, I feel, I feel like it just ties into the, the habit of it literally ties into everything that we're doing. And it, it has my name on it and it came in whatever colors I wanted it to. That's great. For those of you that aren't watching YouTube, it's the lasting change book. And it does, it goes along right with the book we're gonna start talking about today, which is basically if, uh, you wanna do something differently in your life, you have to change your life and not just like one little thing. Like there's a lot that, there's a lot of shit you have to change. And when I say change, I don't mean change who you are, you could still be you, but you have to, you have to do things differently if you want to see things differently. So that's what the Lasting Change book is about. I like it because the beginning is all about the shit like we've been talking about and the science of habits and changes and all of that. And then the end, well the majority of it is like workbook shit that you do. And I love a good fucking workbook. I hate a workbook, and I don't know if it comes from the time that I spent in CCD as a child. Do you remember these workbook? I didn't have to do that. I didn't have to go to C, CD'cause by the time I got outta grade school, mommy was done with that shit. So I was never confirmed. So unfair. Whatever else there was that every Saturday I had to go to C, c, D. Anyway, it was, they gave you a workbook, like it'd never would be a nice Bible story in there about, you know, a leper or a whore. I don't know that there were many horror stories, but I'm, there might been, that's not what they said or could have been a leper and a whore. Those are not Bible stories. Christine. Maybe in the Catholic, maybe. Is there Catholic Bible? I think they read, they all read the same Bible. They're at the Bible. Whores are in the Bible. People get mad about'em all the time. It's true. It's, they burned out a whole city. Sodom and, uh, Gamora. I don't know which one had the whores, but I don't know. But they should be. One of them did. They should be called sex workers. No. So somebody should update that. Somebody should tell the Bible. Mm-hmm. Um, anyway, so you get a, you'd get a workbook and it would be like, and it, you know, they'd go over the story and it would tell you how Jesus was a good person, and then you would have to write down why Jesus was a good person in that story and what you could do to be a good person. And I have really, I just wanted to be done with the work. Mm-hmm. Because then you could, you could like do your independent activities. So I would think really hard and just write as fast as I could. And, and I still think that's the way I approach workbook these days. Like I'm not gonna, yeah. Challenging. Challenging. I like the workbook. I like the workbook. So anyway, that's, those are the things that I have to do to occupy my time instead of helping my child get into college. I mean, I get it. 80 hours of film is a lot to look at. It really is. I mean, that's not gonna help him get into college because I've told him a thousand times, you shouldn't go to college just'cause you want to play soccer. So we're trying to work that out. But lots to do. Lots to do in the next couple of years for this kid. He is taking a summer class, so he will be ready to take some sort of physics class in the fall. So is Liv. He's taking, maybe they can take summer class together. His smart shit. I don't know what he's taking in the summer. I think I should know'cause I signed him up for it. But that's the kind of shit like the uk, like I look at it, I do it. I forget it. I'm the worst mom. You're fine, you're fine. You know? You know why you're fine. The paradox of momming is that if you think you're a bad mom, you're probably doing it right. Prob, I'm probably killing it. Right? You're doing better than lots of other moms who are keeping their children in cages. So you're good. Better moms like Ruby, Frankie and that other woman that I watched, the latest Netflix mom, man, momager. Was she a Mormon too kid? She wasn't. I feel like maybe that should stop kid. Kid influence, kid influencer mom. Again, if you're feeling bad about your parenting, watch these documentaries.'cause you will feel like. The best freaking parent ever. It's liter. I think it's why we watched it. I think it's why Noah joined me in watching it. We just, there were audible gasps of oh my like what in the fuck? So I don't remember the name of that one, but it's Piper, I think Piper was the girl's name. Piper Never went to school. Mom didn't think it was important because Piper won the pageants when she was a baby and then, and then became a kid influencer, and then Piper's mom invited like friends over to become influencers and then ran the show on all of them and then, and then assaulted them in several ways. Yuck. And then you're the parent that finds out about this later. Like you're the parent of the kid that went over there. Right. I think that's why. That's why. So that's why so many people are like, no, we just have a policy. We don't do it. Can you imagine in the eighties if Nita and Jumbo were like, yeah, you don't sleep over in anybody's house. Like, you're just not allowed. What are talking about? It's like Jonestown over at, uh, Heather Swank's house. We just sleep where we fall. I never slept at anybody's house.'cause I never wanted to. I always wanted be at home. You were different. You were different. You were, you would've been okay with the no sleepover rule. Fine. It would've been fun. They always had to come get me.'cause I got sick in the middle of the night.'cause I wanted to come home. It's nine 15. I never slept as a child, so I was always like the kid, the creepy kid who was downstairs talking to the parents at 3:00 AM Hey guys, what's up? I have a great story. I have a great sleepover story. Owen's first sleepover now, he had, he had tried to sleepover a couple places and it didn't work out. And we also would give him melatonin at home. God. So his first sleepover, like I told the mom this, he's tried before, he's had to come home like, it's fine, just call us whatever. And uh, he made it the whole night and went to pick him up. And I guess he got up, he tried to come home and they were like, that's fine, you're gonna be fine. And then he proceeded to tell the parents that he couldn't sleep because his mom and dad normally give him the medicine. And I was like, oh yeah. Um, that's just melatonin. It's fine. It's fine. So anyway, yeah. Uh, yeah, because of the medicine, he couldn't sleep because of the medicine that his parents give him. That's hilarious. Yeah. Anyway, okay. We just jumped around a lot there. I. Should we talk about your mom? Yeah. Yes. Good old nun nun had a doctor's appointment this week and we decided we, being the sister and I, uh, decided to the gastric girls. The gastric girls decided to take the day off and go take nun to the doctor. She was going to the rheumatologist. She was a bit anxious about the whole thing and as a She wanted the nun will be. Yeah. And she, she wanted us to come with her. So it worked out really well. We all had our, what's it called? Assignments. I was the driver. I was driving us to get there. Um, my assignment was to set the schedule that my sister would break, so I was the driver, but then Christine was there because she's good with the big words. So first of off. I will say you are also good with the big words, but it, it's part of the, like, it's just part of the story. It's good. It's good because none said that to me. Literally when we were told only one of us could go back. So you stay, stay here. We'll get there. We'll get there first. First we need to apologize to none because we didn't listen to her. I didn't listen to her. Sorry, nun. I was I going with what the GPS was telling me in the car and my eyeballs. And the eyeballs, it was on the fifth floor and we pulled up to where Nunny said it was, which wasn't where. The GPSS was telling me we pull up to there anyway.'cause that's where she said to go. And there were definitely not, there were, there were two floors of this building, right? Maybe two. This is not a five story building at all. No, no at all. And the one in the distance to which the GPS was leading us, it was definitely five stories. Definitely five stories. So, great. So we head there, I drop nun and sissy off. I go park the car. Come down. They're just sitting outside now. Um, I think it's important for the listeners to understand just. The amount of stress I added to all of this nun's appointment is for 1130. Nun is instructed to be there at 1115. So we were gonna leave, uh, you did a very smart thing and said, Hey, you have to be over here at 10 o'clock. Um, I was gonna meet them at nun's house at, at 10 o'clock and that would, that would've been great.'cause it takes about 45 minutes to get there. Yeah. I wanted to leave by 10 15. And that gives us a cushion for in case we get lost.'cause we dunno the exact, you know, the exact things that happened. Right. So we'll get there. Traffic. We might, we might be a little early, but that's fine.'cause we'll be there. The, uh, the anxiety will be less. Uh, what time did you get to mommy? What time did you get to Mommy and Daddy's? 10 30. 10 40. 10 40. I mean, I said 10 30. I said I'll be there in seven minutes. And I was there in. 10. You said I'll be there more like 10 30. And then you called at 10 32 and said, I'm leaving now. I'm, I'm on my way. I'll be there in five minutes, seven minutes. And I said, okay, seven minutes together. Wait, we'll wait for you. And uh, I told Nani, um, she literally just got in her car. You guys were sitting in the car at that point, weren't you? Mm-hmm. Yeah. But we were just walking out to the car at that point. I figured, I said, I'll just get the car turned around and we'll go, we'll be ready to go when she gets here. Yeah, it, so anyway, if not predictable. So that added, added pressure. Now at this point it is 1115, so Nani should be checking in and now you can see like the panic Yeah. On her face. So I have caused this. So it turns out we were at the wrong building. When I get down there and meet them at the door, Christina's on the phone trying to find out where we go. I go walking around the building, like something's gonna pop out at whatever. Anyway, we get back in the car, I drop them off, they go up, I blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Get upstairs. It's time for nun to go back into the doctor's office and all we, all three of us get up'cause we're all gonna go back there.'cause none said she wanted both of us back there. She told me that three, three showed up. She like, she actually said, I don't care what they say. You're both coming back with me. And I was like, all right, whatever. All right. And the nurse was like, oh, we can only have one person back there with her because the rooms are real small. Immediately none was like, none folded, like a paper bag to my face, right hand in my face. And she said, you stay out here. She's good with the big words to sissy. So I said, okay, I'll be out here. On my phone looking up where the UK is trying to, trying to figure out what is Germany in the eu? Yeah. I don't know. Right. So yeah. So there's none. So that that's, that's how that, that worked out. But none is so cute. She's literally a bird. Yeah, she's, she's a little bird with little, little bones with the osteoporosis, with hollow bones. Is that what osteoporosis is? Little, yeah, it's a thinning of your bones. Oh, okay. Yeah. So she's literally, she's like a little bird, a little baby bird. So she's gone from a baby mouse to a baby bird, baby bird, which seems right. She eats like a baby bird. Right. Eventually we'll have to chew up her food for her. I nominate you for that. Nope, that's all you. You're good. No way. Nope. We'll get somebody in a nursing home to do. That sounds great. Hell no. Enjoyable day. Really? I really liked, I didn't like the doctor'cause that was sort of a pain in the butt and I felt really stressed out about it. Let's. Let's talk about the smells in the car. No. No. So we, after afterwards we go to lunch and, um, our friend friend Erin comes out and meets us at lunch at the Barn and Barrel in Elizabeth. Big shout out to those guys. Woo, wonderful. Absolutely wonderful. And they have Miller Light, so that was pretty cool. Get some wings to go. They're smoked wings. We get the wings to go, we get in the car. They're pretty potent smelling, which that's good. I love a good smoked wing smell. From there we go into downtown Elizabeth to the, uh, what's the name of it? Simply You. Simply You. Uh, such a great place. So, and candle shop, which, uh, shout out to them. Uh, you should stop down there in the town of Elizabeth, uh, whenever you get a chance.'cause they have super awesome stuff and I love everything. Um, we go down there and we buy a bunch of candles and everything and soaps and flea repellent for the dog. Nun said the bomb nun said, we don't have the babies to spoil anymore, so I gotta get something for the dog. So we had everything, a little bit of everything, some foot scrub, some candle lotion, which was something new for me, right. Anyway, all the good smelling shit. So we get in the car and now the very strong smell of candles and soap is mixing in with these smoked wings, chicken wings, which is enough to be like, it's kind of terrible. The last stop is the Sto Stogie bird. Stogie Bird on Stogie Bird on 51. Yes. Which is owned by a friend of ours, or a childhood friend of ours who's just like family to us. So it is owned by Sammy Lasha. So check out the Stogie Bird on one Wonderful little stokey smoking. I know. You walk in there. It's total cigars. Yeah, smells delicious. Like I love the smell of a cigar. So it smells great when you spend some time in there and then you carry that smell out with you and you put it in the car with the wings and the candles and the soap. It not as it caused a very bad reaction. My mouth. Mouth. I dunno why it was just in your mouth. I was like, was so thirsty. Like, I don't know if that's what caused it, but in my mind, this is what, this is what made, I was so thirsty and for some reason in my mind it was the smell of everything that was making me so thirsty. We went into Mommy and Daddy's and I literally chugged like two huge glasses of water. It was, it was like, um, it was like you had gone to Long John Silver's. Mm mm-hmm. Maybe it was, maybe it was the saltiness of the, of the food at the, uh, that might've been it, it might've been the brisket sandwich that I had. That was probably it. Delicious. And the cheesy, the big cheese wheel that I had was very salty. Which is also delicious. Delicious. Yeah. That is, that is actually now we've, that's why it wasn't the combination. It was just the, it was, uh, salty. It was just salt. It wasn't the combination of the smells, but yeah, the smells were, uh, yeah, it was, it was kicking. It was kicking. Mm-hmm. I highly recommend you stop at all of those places at separate times. Right. Do not all at once. Don't do, don't. You could stop at all of them, but maybe a different order, like maybe you do candles last maybe, I don't know. You do like cigars, uh, fried food, candles. I think we'll have to do it again and mix up the, uh, the timing and we'll have to do it to we figure out which one is right. Yeah. Tough. We'll have to, we have to take mommy with us, so she buys the food. Yeah. That is, uh, it key. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Key for all of this. Yeah. Good to say. It was a fun day. I can't wait to, I can't wait to use all my soaps. I take, I've taken them out of the package, so we've taken the first step into using them. I haven't put the entire package of foot things underneath the sink yet. I've used my face lotion and I don't know if you remember when I checked out, she was like, it's like, don't use a lot.'cause a little goes like really far away. And it literally, I didn't even, like, I literally just had to rub my finger right on top of it and that covered my whole face. This is gonna last forever. Lasting face lotion you have to buy. Yeah. Thank you. Simply it was, yeah, it was wonderful. And I've been using my goat's milk lotion also, if any of these places want to, uh, pay us Yeah. For, yeah. For these, uh, for these endorsements. I mean, we are absolutely a hundred percent willing to take your money in addition to nanny's money. Yeah. We have like five people that listen on the rig. Right. So if maybe, maybe you guys could go to, uh, you know, the lady that owns the soap store and be like, Hey. If you can go see Steph at the, at the story early on the pod. Yeah. Perfect. Alright. That's all I got for gastric shit today. I don't really have a Gaster story. I think we just covered our stories today with my annoyance with soccer parents and our little, uh, adventure with Nanny. So thanks none. Thanks for letting us hang out with you on Monday. It was fun. Thanks. I'm the Red Lion, wasn't open and Red Lion. I bet you're sad you weren't open.'cause I am not endorsing you until you're open on a Monday and I can go eat. Right. We're not gonna talk about how much we would've enjoyed that. Mm-hmm. Yeah. As a throwback to our childhood. Yeah. Definitely not gonna say anything about it. We would've had. Great, I have great Red Lion stories for Gaster gastric stories, but, okay. Yep. Yep. All right. Next week shall we talk about the most bizarre science book I've ever read? Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza. Mm-hmm. Is it Dispenza? Mm-hmm. I don't know. Our boy, Dr. Joe. Joe, there's lots of words, lots of sciencey words. I really like this book More than more so than the last book.'cause there's a little bit, there's lots, lots more science. Mm-hmm. It's, uh, it's, I, but, but I don't like it for other reasons. I don't have a, um, I don't, I'm just gonna say this and then I'm gonna shut up and let you talk about it because you're gonna do a way better job talking about it. I don't really have a thought either way just yet. There were some things definitely throughout it that I was like, bullshit. But then some things that I was like, that kind of makes, like, I, I get it. I feel like I could do that. So I just, I'm not giving up on it yet. Like, I wanna see this book through and I wanna get to the end where he's giving us actual things to do and I wanna read all this stuff leading up to that, so. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. It can all click. And I kind of feel like he says throughout the beginning, like, just stick with me. Right. Yeah. I feel, I feel like I am gonna, it's, it's a book with science in it, but also a book where I'm gonna be like, nah, dog. Yeah. I'm not buying it. It's like, Randy from, um, early Days of American Idol. I'm gonna be like, nah, dog. It's not for me. So it, here's, here's, here's the way, uh, Joe, uh, Dr. Joe, uh, explains it. Um. You have to break the habit of being you if you want to be something else. So like for me, I've had 50 years of thinking the same way, coming to the same conclusions, doing the same thing. And if you think about your adult life, you have essentially been stuck in sort of the same patterns. Your beliefs haven't changed very much. You are essentially the, pretty much the same person that, that you were because you are having the same thoughts and doing the same activities over and over and over again on repeat and looking out at a different, different reality out there somewhere. Uh, but taking no effective definitive steps to get from A to B. He says that there's no reason that you can't because your personality isn't fixed. And I think we've, we've touched on this a couple of times, that, yeah, your personality isn't fixed because your beliefs aren't fixed. Um, what you think about, uh, you know, what you think about topics today isn't necessarily the same way that, that maybe you've thought about them before. Um, and to just that, you need to, uh, take the changes that are occurring in your belief system and line them up with your actions. And for Dr. Joe, that means a lot of changing, uh, your thoughts. And it has to do with, uh. Newtonian and quantum worldviews, which yeah, I think is where Sarah went. Woo. Cool. Cool. There's a lot like, I, I, what I wish I did,'cause I highlight shit, like you could see my highlighting throughout. I wish what I would've done is just highlighted shit I couldn't pronounce. So we could review that.'cause there were definitely, there was, there was a lot of things in here that I could not pronounce that I know should be easier for my brain and they just weren't happening. But, but go ahead. Like in Game of Thrones, when I put a little sticky note on the places where everybody died. Yeah. One of my favorite activities ever. I'm fine. I was fine then. Nothing. Yeah. Nothing troublesome there at all. So the core message from chapter one is that, again, personalities aren't fixed. You can change your reality, your health. I'm gonna put, I'm gonna put a big, uh, BS tag on the health one. I don't think we're gonna cure cancer by changing the way we think. Yeah. I feel like. I feel like if we eat McDonald's for every meal, but you just think that you're healthy. I don't, I'm not sure that's gonna, I mean, it's gonna be about lining up those thoughts and the actions. Okay. Maybe, maybe that's, but still, but still with a, yeah, no, that's where I am right now. Okay. Let's line up the thoughts with the actions. Let's see the reality that we want. Let's focus on it. Right? Let's manifest that into reality and at the same time, maybe change a habit or two, like figure out what we're doing wrong and don't do that. Um, like the McDonald's every day, maybe don't do that. Right. And you will have, you will be health healthier. Like that's, that's really what. Like, uh, flipping back to atomic habits and being like, you know what? I don't want to eat healthier. I want to be a healthy person and in order to be a healthy person, I don't eat McDonald's. I'm a better person than everybody else'cause I don't eat McDonald's. But the way love McDonald's though. Me too. Me too. So Dr. Joe focuses on, uh, you make these changes not by working harder in the physical world. So not necessarily by changing habits, but more like changing your inner world of thoughts and emotions. So I think this is gonna end up being one of those chicken and egg discussions as we go through the books. Like which one drives the other? Uh, like, yeah. And I, I am not, I'm not going discount the fact that they're very powerful things that Dr. Joe has pointed out in these chapters that make sense scientifically, at least the way that he is writing them down. I haven't thought much about, uh, quantum worldviews, really, uh, not too much about, uh, the difference between classical physics, the Newtonian model and the quantum model. I haven't spent a whole lot of time in that space. Sounds fun. Yeah. So the difference between those two is that Newtonian physics, like if you remember Newton, he got hit in the head with Apple. Um, because it, the world is all kinds of physical, right? There's forces that that act on things, and that's generally the physics that we all learn in high school. Uh, forces, gravity, uh, you know, those kinds of things. Uh, change happens only through physical effort and time is kind of the way we relate it to, uh, making changes in, in who we are and how we interact with the world. Right? So we go to exercise classes more. If we wanna be skinny. We consciously think about going to church every week if we wanna be more religious. Physical changes lead to the way that we change our environment, health, our relationships, our success, and our happiness, our results of our interactions with that physical world. The quantum model kind of takes us from Newtonian physics to quantum physics, which is more about energy than matter. So we start thinking about Einstein and e equals mc squared, and. Reality is made up of energy, uh, and not matter at its most fundamental level. So we start talking about the space between the stuff that makes up the atoms and real cool stuff. I honestly can't listen to it enough. I see you falling asleep and don't do it. Don't do it. It's cool. Think about that. Like there is enough space in between the stuff that makes up the atoms that I should be able to walk through this wall. Yeah. I can't. I mean, I can't. Yeah. Which is where I get sort of hung up on it like, yeah, that's so cool. Watch me put my hand through. No, we can't do it. No, because there's for real wall there. So the idea behind this stuff is that the energy is what connects us. The energy is what keeps the atom together. The energy is what makes the wall solid and everything is interconnected in a field. Okay? This is, this is where it gets super cool of. Infinite potential called a quantum field. So if you think about it, uh, and let's, let's do the most basic activity that you can do. Like I'm sitting at my desk and my next move right now, let's see, we're done talking. Uh, my next move is either I'm gonna stand up or I'm gonna move my leg, or I'm gonna throw this cat off my lap. There's these infinite possibilities of things that are gonna happen at 7 0 8. It's still infinite now, right? But the closer and closer we get to 7 0 8, I start eliminating those possibilities. Like the closer we get to 7 0 8, um, uh, the cat moves. All right, so now at 7 0 8, I'm not doing shit with the cat'cause he's not here at 7 0 6, I get up so I can't get up at 7 0 8'cause I've already done it. You shrink the amount of possibilities by focusing on them. It, and the way that somebody explained this back in the day, it might've been Eric Thomas who did TaeKwonDo with us because we were talking about being fighting somebody and watching them go from deciding to do like a, a punch to a kick. And you can see the moment it happens. So I, if you think about all those infinite possibilities of the next move, like floating and swirling around and if you can get to what they're gonna do one second before they do. So if you watch those possibilities of like, I imagine it like a tangled, um, mess of string right around, around you and then. The number of strings decreases and decreases and gets more solid until there's only one. And if you can fight that one string, then, then you win the TaeKwonDo battle every time in quantum, in a quantum model. So that kind of describes a quantum field. Are you bored? You think No, you make it much more enticing. Enticing not the word that makes more sense. Right? And I remember exactly where I learned that. It wasn't Eric Thomas. It was in a book about elves that were fighting. Fuck. Alright, nevermind. You lost, man. Super cool. Now he just super cool. Yeah, you made like 10 steps forward and 42 back, Sam. It applies. Still applies, still applies. Bunch of string, right? Fighting out bunch an Elvin string. It's fine. The ears were pointed. It's cool. So in this way, consciousness affects reality. You know, observer influences the outcome. So think about it. When somebody's looking at you, you're gonna act slightly differently and. They, you, they don't have to touch you for you to know that they're observing you like that, the little hairs that stand up on the back of your neck when you know somebody's in the room, but you can't, you haven't seen them yet. Mm-hmm. Like, think about that on a tinier and tinier and tinier scale. So the idea here is that you're not separate from that energy around you. Like those tiny hairs stand up on the back of your neck for a reason. And that reason is because the energy around you has changed somehow. You're an energetic being immersed in a sea of possibility. I like that one. I like that. So that kind of explains the, the, the sort of head space we're, we're gonna be in for, for this. So he goes on a little bit, uh, a little bit long for me, and he is collapsing possibilities into reality by focusing on them every possible version of you. Healthy, wealthy wise, uh, apparently we're all gonna be Benjamin Franklin when we're all done here. Uh, fulfilled, loved, empowered, et cetera. Like whatever you can imagine, um, that perfect version of yourself exists out there somewhere because they all exist out there somewhere. And what you're doing, uh, through focus is bringing that, bringing that one string that you want to see into focus and watching the other ones sort of disappear. Um, so there you go. And it's not like an overnight thing, right? This is where I'm like, well, so if I go to bed at night and I think I wanna be a princess in the morning, right? That's not exactly how it works. There, there are a couple things I wanna talk about. One, I thought this was really cool, um, I think it was a study done here at the Heart Math Research Center in California about how your emotions affect your thoughts. Let me read it. When we have negative emotions such as anger and fear, our heart rhythms become erratic and disorganized. So you're kind of all over the place. You're all anxious and shit, right? In contrast, positive emotions, love, joy, for instance, produce highly ordered and coherent patterns. So that makes like a ton of sense and I just, I highlighted it because I love that. Because even though it sounds super simple when you read it. Again, like I just did. Obviously it's something that doesn't really, it's like, oh yeah, that makes sense. When I'm angry, when I'm crazy, my shit's all over the place. I shouldn't say crazy, but when I'm angry and when I'm having those negative emotions, everything's all over the place. There's no good pattern. But then when I'm calmer and in a more loving state, uh, those more positive states, you have more of a consistency, which I thought was cool. Here is, here's where I get to say my line. Go ahead. Your thoughts are electric boogie, woogie. Woogie. There you go. If anyone is familiar with the electric slide, it's electric. I hate the electric. Your emotions are magnetic. So if you think about your mind as a signal sending device, which is what we're gonna be doing for the, the rest of this book. Mm-hmm. So if you think about your mind as the, as the way you're going to target that specific string in the field of possibility, then your heart and your feelings are the receiving and the attracting mechanism. So if you see your little string out, off in the distance, what you put into your heart and your feelings is what you're gonna be able to pull back. Like your ability to bring that particular string closer to you depends on, um, how you're able to center your feelings and emotions, your heart and your feelings. So aligning what you think, what you feel lets you broadcast a clear signal to the, the thing that you want. Again, it makes like, it makes sense, it makes sense, but a lot of things that. So do dragons. Like if I, if I say it, if you think about it enough, if you think about it enough, like a dragon who has multiple boyfriends and girlfriends, it definitely makes sense. Can also like, because it's in the book, lemme ask you, let me ask you this. Okay. How do you feel about the study that was done on how your current thoughts can affect the past? I mean, we talk about it here all the time, like your current thoughts do affect a past, right. What, I'm just, I want you to finish that thought. Like, yeah. I mean that's, I mean, I think also if we're, and automatically I go to kind of the meditation space, right? Like we're, we're talking about how that meditation space doesn't necessarily exist in your head. It's not a, in your head. Space. Right? So the memories are there, but you fuck with them all the time. So, and then maybe, okay, because, so no, let's go back. So explain to me,'cause you said that our thoughts now affect the past and we talk about that. You said, so explain to me how, what you mean? Like, did we have a hamster? Yeah. Right. Was his name Lawrence? No. Like this is, this is what I'm talking about. Did we have a bird? Like I, oh, well then maybe I don't understand the study that he's talking about because that, what are you getting out? What are you getting out of it? That's not how I understood it. What are you getting out of it? Uh, I don't know, maybe I'm too literal for it. Tell me why you're thinking,'cause you're probably not. I mean, sometimes, you know, I, I don't, I don't wanna surprise anyone on here, but it's about how they, like in this study, sometimes I read things into, uh, stuff that maybe just doesn't belong there. How they had, they had groups of individuals that were praying and putting good thoughts into something for people who were sick, right? So, um, it was involving, uh, da da da prayer experiments of the mind affecting matter at a distance. So they were looking at patients who suffered from sepsis. Oh, thank God. I thought I missed reading the story. Okay. Because I thought there was a very specific story in here that was more about like people interacting and thinking about their memories and how they change. And that's, that's not, it's just this story about the prayers, right? No, it's about how these people, but this, so this, this study was done might skip to the end on this one. Yeah. The study was done in 2000. It was involving, uh, about 3,400 people who were hospitalized with sepsis. And what they did was they put them into groups and they told people to pray and think and do specific things for each group. And it turns out that the group that had the prayer and the thoughts and the very specific, I don't know how to explain it without like reading it exactly. It turns out that group, those people got better quicker or something to that effect, but. The study was done, the people were ha doing the thoughts, the prayers in the year 2000, but the patients that they were praying for or whatever, those were patients who were actually getting better during the nineties. Right. So I feel like we have to just read the whole thing. Yeah. Uh, so for me, for me, that story is, uh, is, uh, is the reason I don't like it. Um, that story, that story for me is one that, that I looked at and went, you can't Yeah. Pray away. That's an illness. That's why I wanted to talk about it, because it was kind of baffling to me. I feel like I see, like that's something like I wanted to get, I guess I wanted to get your perspective on it from a study point of view. Like, is that something you've seen before or I. I will tell you that, uh, some of, some of that really kicked off some, uh, oddly enough, believe it or not. Um, memories from when I was working in the hospital, uh, with, um, with Dr. Mayer. Do you remember Dr. Mayer? Mm-hmm. We, we would get together with some of the other, uh, physicians, um, and talk about, um, junk science that we had read. And this was like a hot topic because somebody was like, look, this works. And the, the rest of us were like, it doesn't, I mean, look at the way the study's constructed. This seems like a cool idea. And this like tickled, uh, tickled those memories. And I'm pretty sure what I did was just look at it and be like, Hmm, uh, I agree to disagree. I agree to disagree, my dude. So I think that that, that is gonna happen to me a lot. And it might be that I'll come back and take a look at it and be like, oh, I can see how and why that would, that would work. But if I can't, if I can't conceive of the mechanism by which that works, like yeah. If we are, if we're looking back in the past and affecting, like, I understand, you know, time's not real. It's a construct. But even that is like, that is a bit beyond what I can conceive of as possible. Then we're getting into the realm of dragons. So I, I think this is where it, I'm just reading it over right now. So it's, I mean, it was pretty basic. It was a prayed for group and a not prayed for group. Right, right. The prayed for, and he compared the results in three categories, how long the fever lasted, the length of the hospital stay, and how many died as a result of the infection. So the pray for the prayed for group benefited from an earlier de decrease in fever and a shorter hospital. Hos that word, I should have highlighted it. Hospitalization. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. But, so I don't know, I the tiniest Right. That maybe, right. I think this is, this seemed, again, it, again, it's, it's tickling, it's tickling junk science in my head because that is exactly what we would've talked about was the statistical significance of it. So it, yeah, it just seemed, it, it seemed this was a part that I was like, bullshit. I mean, yeah, you'd have to, you'd have to like really peel it apart, right. Because what the, what the statisticians are gonna look for is what else was going on? Like what, what caused the sepsis, how bad was the sepsis? Like, right. What are the other like confounding variables that are, uh, sorry again, it's just nerd nerds. Do nerds. No, no, it's, thank goodness though.'cause I was really confused. I was like, did I miss an entire story? I was really confused. I was like, did I totally get that wrong? It seems like a pretty basic study. And I was, I was trying to like BS my way through it. I'm like, oh yeah, no. We've talked often on this podcast about, yeah, I was like, really? Fuck. Like. Do, don't remember talking about that. Yeah. Um, yeah, I mean, it, it, I, I, I think we're gonna find this fringy stuff along the way. So if you think about the physics of it and the quantum pieces of it, uh, yeah. I mean, the fact that there is energy everywhere and that thoughts are electric. Okay. Yeah. I, I'll, I'll, I'll put my, I'll put my apples in the basket for a little bit. Um, I'll play around. I'll play around. It does like, I think it does make a difference. Like there was, there was definitely that one particular study, sorry, I had to bring it up just'cause it was, that was the big bullshit moment for me. However, there's so much other stuff in here that I do. Believe will make a difference and can make a difference. Yeah, and I, I think, I think it's more about aligning because if you think about it, um, if you think about having the greatest effect on, uh, on bringing that solid string that you want to happen to happen, it's gonna be about aligning. And, and let's say that is like, oh, I would really like this person that I love to get out of the hospital, uh, faster. And if, if you, uh, can conceive of the fact that, that I can make that happen, then you give yourself something to focus on and you create an atmosphere where maybe, maybe that's likely to happen. Like you will talk to a nurse, you will, you know, interact in, in some way that maybe affects the outcome of, of that. I mean, you're not gonna overcome, you're not gonna overcome the. A gunshot wound to the head. You're not gonna overcome, you know, stage four cancer. But it, you know, there, there are possible ways that aligning your positive thoughts and your positive approach and your actions and what you believe can happen, uh, that, that you can affect some change in your world. I can, I can see that a hundred percent. Does that make sense? 1%? Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. Absolutely. So, you know, I think the, the trick is being able to get out of the habit loop of being yourself. So this is like the whole crux of chapter one. Yeah. Which goes into chapter two, which is overcoming your environment, which is a lot of what we, what we live in and, and what is based on our past and all of that. So, yep, yep. That's, that's what we, we need to get past ourselves into the change that we need. Like, imagine, imagine that your ideal person, what your, what your solid string looks like is somebody who is content with their life, um, who really enjoys what's happening around them for the most part. Somebody who is living in the moment, embracing the things that are happening, taking responsibility for, for things that come up, somebody who's, uh, calm, cool, collected, in control, in charge, that is sort of a, a, a, a thing that most people would like to have happen. That would be a nice solid string to, to bring to myself. Yeah. If I, uh, if I keep doing the same things, like the reason that most people don't change is because we, uh. My, my everyday world doesn't line up with that. Right. My everyday world is getting up in the morning being like, fuck, fuck, fuck, fuck. Right? Which doesn't align with someone who is like calm and rational and Right. Like, yeah. Me, me looking at the clock going, you gotta get going, you gotta get going. Is not like the, the way to manifest these things that I want to happen to be that cool, calm, collected persona. Yeah. And if you have it, if you have your thoughts and align with all of that, and you're convinced of that, which isn't totally simple, like right. When I see what I want to be, there's also, it goes back to talking about the self-doubt and the self-criticism, right? It's like, do I truly think that I can succeed as that? I. No. So therefore I don't change anything. So I need to change that. And me, I need to be confident in myself that that's what I can be. And if I am confident in that solid string, that will help me in taking strides, in making changes to become that individual, right? Like we, we have to, we have to stop. Um, we have to stop envisioning the thing we wanna be, and then acting in a way that doesn't bring that to us. I mean, that's fundamentally the, the crux of every book that we've read is that you know what you wanna do, you know what you have to do, get your shit together and do it. I mean, that is essentially what this book is saying, like, why most people don't change. They have the same thoughts, they create the same feelings. Like, I have the same thought of, you gotta get up and get after it. And then I wake up and I'm like, fuck, fuck. That is why I feel the same way today that I did 15 years ago looking at my Facebook posts, apparently keep thinking like if I could just get up a little bit earlier, I could get a lot of shit done. Right. And then guess what I do of sleep it? I don't, and you know what? I don't hit snooze anymore. I just set my alarm later so I don't feel bad about hitting snooze. Fuck me.'cause we, your brain is so, like that is, that is the interesting thing. And I think that is what we are going to, we're gonna bump up against that one constantly. Right? Like your brain is just so wired to get around all the things that you should do that are gonna be good and healthy. Yeah. Like your brain is so. We read about hitting snooze. And like I learned, and for, for, for a week or so, I, I didn't hit the, well, I haven't hit the snooze, but for a week I was actually getting up earlier and I was real proud of the fact that I wasn't hitting the snooze. I was getting up, I was doing what I wanted to do, and then like, you know, the following week I was like, Ugh. But I'm really tired, but I don't wanna hit the snooze. Okay. So I'll just set my alarm for a half hour later, a dick, because there is this, there's this natural tendency of everything that exists on this planet to just devolve, devolve towards the chaos. Chaos. And the, the most important line that I read in chapter one, and then we'll talk a little bit about meditation, then I think we're done, is to break the habit loop of being yourself. You have to think greater than how you feel and act greater than your current reality. So it is the. I love that wildest oversimplification of how to get a better life that I have ever read in my entire life. Yeah, no. Yeah. Do your, yeah. Get it. Get it. Strings and energy thinking greater than how I feel, acting greater than my current reality. Of course. Mm-hmm. Of course. Right. Or I just wake up every morning and go, fuck. Like, I wish, I wish. And then think about all the shit that could be different Right now if you just Right. Didn't do that shit for the last two weeks. Like, if you just stayed on the course, what would things be like now? Right. Right. All the time. All the time. Like, imagine the goddamn muscles I would have if I didn't quit on CrossFit.'cause it's hard. Right, right. Oh, I'd be so annoying. Yeah. I, we wouldn't be friends anymore. So again, how do we, how do we get from, how do we get from A to B? And a lot of that is again, having that, having that pause to go, is this the best decision I'm gonna make right now? No. Me getting up and going, shit, shit, shit, shit. 14 things to do that I could have done last night, but I didn't. Fuck, fuck. Or is it, Hey, um, you let it go last night, so why don't you keep letting it go? Uh, get yourself in a little meditation chair. Have a little meditation, rest. Put some things in perspective. Give yourself the ability to, you know, collect your thoughts, calm down a little bit, and then go tackle the day, friend. Yeah, these are both possibilities that could happen. Um, I don't choose that second one hardly ever, even though that is the path to the. Calm, cool, collected person who is into a, a wild maniac all the time. Clear, clear path, easy path. Yeah. One decision, one change. So it, a, a lot of what we're gonna focus on is going to be creating that, creating the ability in your brain to make that one, that one decision. And again, we're gonna get back to how focusing the energy on the, the thing that you want and focusing the energy. Does change your brain? They that I can, I'll, I'll swallow that pill whole every time. Yeah. The neuroplasticity exists in there to change 100% the behavior. And if you can stick with it, you can change it and your world can be different. I a hundred percent believe that we are not forced into, uh, the, the craziness by genetics or environment or, or any of these things. You do possess that. And whether it's quantum physics or it's neuroplasticity makes a very, very little difference in getting from A to B. So that's what I, that's what I got. You're not stuck with your biology as think is how we, how we wrap up. Chapter one. So a lot of it seems bullshit. Like a lot of it is like, yeah, you can pray somebody better, but you can't. Maybe, I don't know, like Galileo, everyone was like, ah, Galileo, what a dick. Yeah, sure. The sun's in the middle. Idiot. Idiot. Yeah. Thank you for all your, uh, science evidence. Suck a dick Galileo later, dude. Come over here. We have some stones to throw at you. It was a great, great Indigo Girl song though. I guess we've got tickets to see them at Red Rocks with Melissa Etheridge this summer. Oh, that's fantastic. Who are you going with? I don't know. It's just me. Just me. If someone wants to go to Colorado, sorry. Somebody wants to go to Colorado. My treat, I mean, that's awesome. I'll hang, I'll hang out by myself at the Indigo Girls concert. Did you really get tickets? Yeah, I really bought tickets. I looked at them last night and they weren't wildly expensive and they were still available, so I bought them. Fun. It'll be a good show. Melissa Etheridge come to my window. Melissa Etheridge come to my window. Love. Not Melissa Etheridge too. They gonna have to listen to that stuff. The angst of angry female artists in the n So good chefs kiss. So fucking good kiss chefs kissed at the same time. I love it. Sonny came home. Oh yeah, darn right, Sean Colvin. Sonny did come home. I like it. I like it. So great. All right, so that's, that's what I have for chapter two. I'm excited about the book. I'm starting to understand that, you know, the mechanism doesn't matter. It's being able to relax. Like being able to unc clinch the innards and, and have a heartbeat be innards. You know what I'm talking about? Yeah. I like it. I dig it. I dig it. All right. I think that is how we proceed forward with this book. I'm excited. I mean, I'm, I'm much more excited about this book than I am about any of the, any of our recent books. I'll say that or that one with the green cover. Becca, what would you like to say? Don't wanna be, I don't wanna be a dick. Is Becca raising her hand or she frozen that? Yeah, she was raising her hand. Yeah, she's raising her hand. Do we have fan mail to go over? No, we don't. We don't have anything new. Um, yeah, the last quote unquote fan mail was, oh, I got a new, I got a new tattoo. That's new. I mean, that's not fan mail or anything, but I thought that was, I thought we saw that last time. Did we? I, I got a new tattoo. It's pretty two weeks ago. Thanks. I like it. I dig it. I like, I like looking at it. Yeah. Um, check out, buy me a coffee. Send us a dollar. Buy us a coffee. That would be awesome. That was our last bit of fan mail was Lori's buy me a coffee, which I mentioned in our last, last episode. So, uh, yeah. Uh, gastric girls@gmail.com. Check us out on Facebook. Michael Ovation gave us a little bit of love on Facebook. Yay. They shared my, our, our pics from the party and told people to check us out. And speaking of Michael's ovation, I believe it's August 9th is going to be there. Do you have some golfing golf outing this year? So, details to come, but I believe we're marking our calendars for August 9th. Yeah, I think that's right. I'll hang out with us. I don't have the Facebook up right now. So it's either the ninth or the 19th. It was some odd day in August. It was a Saturday. Not odd. Like bizarre but odd as in Yeah. Not divisible by two. I'm gonna say it's the ninth'cause that is a Saturday. I know Noah asked me to check the day. So. Alright, that's it. So thanks to Michael Ovation for the shout out and we're looking forward to the, to the golf outing. Even if we don't golf, we will be there to eat dinner with you, Christine, I think that I should, I think me and you and Becca and somebody else should get a foursome together for golfing. I don't know, like that seems like people are gonna wanna golf fast in um, yeah, that's what I, I think that that's why I'm never invited to do the golfing.'cause I do it because I do very slow. Did you see me last year at Top Golf? Like I almost killed a guy at Top Golf. Yeah. Like imagine what I would be like in the wild. I can't golf like I have, like I've actually gone out on golf courses and shit. Um, but my thing is 18 holes is a lot like, that is, that's a long day. Do you know how many beers I can drink in 18 holes? And how drunk? Like, I, I, the first time I did 18 holes of golf, I realized why Daddy came home drunk all the time. I mean, genetically we're built for it. Yeah. Like, I mean, I could do it, but anyway. Then you feel that I can, you can you just get a golf cart and just drive around the course? Can you do that? I feel like that's what I wanna do. Um, like I don't wanna play a golf Michael's ovation. We will. We'll pay money just to rent a golf cart. Yeah. And drive around. Here's the thing, I would love to wear like a cute little golfing outfit too. How we could get golf outfits, shoes, like they're shoes for this sport, right? Mm-hmm. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. And gloves. We could get just one hand. Just one, like one hand. Like a Jackson Gloves. Well, I'm gonna keep, I'm gonna keep mine in my pocket, in my back. In your pocket. Back pocket. In your back pocket. Mm-hmm. I'm gonna have avisor a visor. I feel like I'm gonna wear a visor. Gonna do. I'm not gonna do that. No. I'm in on the visor for sure. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. Yeah, Becca. That's get you a visor too. So, yeah. So that's what we wanna do. Uh, we want foursome, we'll have to get another one. Mm-hmm. Yep. We want How many people do you put in a golf cart? Four. Two. Two. I think. I feel like golf carts, they have big ones for four people, but I'm not sure those are the ones that you actually drive around. I mean, I mean, if we're course, if we're not, if we're not at, if you don't have the clubs, which I think are probably weighing us down in the golf cart. Oh yeah. Two people. Can I be, we could do facing the back. We could definitely do it. Yeah, I bet we could do four people in a golf cart. Perfectly fine. My God, I want invented a new sport. I want to ride in the back. Like in the back you put your clubs and there's like a little strap that goes around your clubs to hold'em in there. That's where I actually want to ride. A hundred percent. What I'm envisioning now is you back there like some sort of pageant queen. Yes. Waving and tricking my beer and singing. Singing. We're gonna have to have music. Of course. So. Okay. They portable speakers. Yeah. Okay. Michael Ovation point. Uh, if you could make that happen, in fact, I think you should probably just sell those as part of your golf outing. I mean, free ideas all day long here. Can you imagine just random golf carts driving around playing music and drinking? Yes. We'll take candy too. We'll throw candy out like we're gonna parade like a parade. Oh my God, this is so much more fun than golfing. Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. All right. All right. Here's the golf cart Grand Prix. We set it up in the parking lot. I'm guessing this thing is at like Butler's golf course. I have to look, but it's it. It's somewhere in Westmoreland County. Shit. It begins with an N idea. No one knows where it's, he said it's a nice golf course. Perfect. I bet they have a huge parking lot. Mm-hmm. Grand Prix Golf Cart, grand Prix in the parking lot. I feel like, oh my God, no actual cars will get injured at all. Or people, you have to sign a waiver. You have to sign a waiver and everything will be recorded. Not for lawsuits or anything, just because it's that shit will be funny. Just for fun. F Alright, fantastic. Let's wrap this shit up F Alright. I think it's time to call it. Call it. Call it a. Call it. Uh. Okay. Bye. Love you. Bye. Come bye. Love you, bye.