The Mental Funny Bone

Episode 23: Back to Life, Back to Reality

• Gaster Girls • Season 2 • Episode 10

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In this episode of 'The Mental Funny Bone,' hosts Sarah and Christine embark on a lively chat filled with humor and relatable anecdotes.  They manage to touch on deeper topics such as finding the right therapist and the significance of atomic habits. The duo also shares tips and experiences around maintaining household chores, handling the ups and downs of life, and embracing personal growth. From adventures in yoga to Christine's successful navigation of Green Day concerts and Van Morrison cover bands, the episode highlights the importance of finding joy in chaos while striving for a better, more organized life.

How to find mental health help when you're struggling. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
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EAP programs are a great place to look for help!!

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Sarah:

Hello and welcome to the Mental Funny Bone, Becoming the Gaster Girls. I'm Sarah.

Chris:

And I'm Christine. A big part of this podcast is discussing mental health, but please know that we are by no means mental health professionals. There's links to mental health professionals in our show notes. We advise you to use them. As someone who has recently started therapy, I cannot recommend it enough.

Sarah:

Well done. Well done.

Chris:

I edited it on my own.

Sarah:

I like it. I like editing on the fly. what episode are we on? I just feel like this is worth mentioning. 23. Is this episode 23? Fantastic. I would also like to mention that we got new, internets. So hopefully, I don't know, I don't think we've had many internets problems lately, but

Chris:

can't see up once everything gets recorded. you and I might have a little trouble talking over and stepping on each other, but nobody out there in listener land, once again, nobody gives a shit.

Sarah:

Amen. Amen.

Chris:

I had, speaking of nobody giving a shit, I had dinner with your parents last night.

Sarah:

Oh yes.

Chris:

Because your mom keeps texting and saying stuff like, Hey,

Sarah:

Call me when you get a chance.

Chris:

In a text. Hey, it's your mom. Just want to know what's going on.

Sarah:

How you feeling? How, hopefully you had a good weekend. I made mommy macaroni salad this weekend.

Chris:

Oh, how did it turn out? Was it just as good as the original?

Sarah:

It was pretty good. I don't, it's like chicken paprikash. It's like grandma Annie's chicken paprikash. It's just never going to be the exact same. I actually made it a little too dry, which I feel like is

Chris:

How?

Sarah:

it's this little concept of the macaroni absorbs the shit.

Chris:

Oh, yeah.

Sarah:

absorption process. so the, the next day I had to add a little bit of mayo. but it was pretty good. It's pretty good. It got Noah's seal of approval. So that was cool. Yeah.

Chris:

nice.

Sarah:

Yeah, but you're the one that lives close to mommy and daddy. So you are obligated to do the, the dinners and shit. Mommy, we're not complaining. We love this. I love that you text me and ask me to call you. I feel bad that I don't call you, as much as I should. So sorry for being a shitty daughter.

Chris:

Olivia gets to feel bad too.

Sarah:

It's awesome. It's fantastic.

Chris:

can Nani, is Nani going to be okay if I don't text her back every time she texts me? And I'm like, yes, she'll be, she would like it if you texted her, but she's, she'll also be okay if you don't.

Sarah:

Yeah. it'll be fine. It'll be fine. Speaking of, your daughter, can you send me your daughter's Venmo thing? Because I'm still trying to send her a fucking birthday present

Chris:

Oh, good. No,

Sarah:

apparently she doesn't want any money.

Chris:

you can Venmo me and I'll just put it in her account.

Sarah:

See if that was me, I wouldn't trust it.

Chris:

Yeah, But it's

Sarah:

you're a better parent than I am. You don't steal your kids' money all the

Chris:

I did just put, I just put 500 in her, savings account today. Cause that's usually that, that's the beginning of the semester money. I forgot to put in there. Like it's her money from her 529 account that we didn't have to spend on tuition. So

Sarah:

yeah. I can send you my savings account number.

Chris:

yeah, that's not going to work. You already went to school, covered it last week.

Sarah:

Damn it. Damn it. speaking of finances, we are, our credit card got hacked. Hasn't happened in a while.

Chris:

What did they buy? I'm always fast.

Sarah:

they didn't buy anything because our, cause we actually belong to a great, bank now and, our credit, they stop it. So it's not like when we were at Northwest and we actually used our debit card for everything and they drained our bank account and savings account. so now we belong to clear for the clear view. And, and we don't use our debit card anywhere. We just use our credit card, but still they have a great fraud process. And they were like, yeah, I don't think that you made this charge. So we're going to stop it and we're going to call you. And they called us and we were like, yeah, no, that's not ours. However, throughout this process, I went through the credit card to see, what we have charged against it automatically. And there is, three star enterprises. And they charge us 25 a month for something. And I feel like I've figured this out before what it was and I kept letting it go. But I can't figure out, I can't figure it out again.

Chris:

is it porn?

Sarah:

I don't think so. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know of any porn places that are on Campbell's Run Road, but that's the address I get. I can't find out,

Chris:

go there?

Sarah:

I feel like I've figured it out before. this is what's driving me nuts is, it's been dinging us for a few months, I swear I figured it out before, or I think I figured it out because I just kept letting it go. I'm not sure anybody listening knows what three star enterprises is and why they charge me 25 a month. If you can let me know, that would be great. I guess I need to just call them or call somebody or just tell the credit card company to stop letting them charge me. And eventually they'll reach out and be like, Hey, you're not paying your whatever fee. Cause I can't figure out what I spend 25 a month for.

Chris:

On the go lap dance fee? I don't know, this is always where my brain goes when there's these unidentified charges. I

Sarah:

Porn. I don't really think it's porn. I don't pay for any porn online. That shit's free. if you want to look at porn, you can find that shit for free. So I'm not really sure who's paying for it. But, Even Noah, or, okay. No, cause Owen doesn't know how to get our card first.

Chris:

Okay, alright.

Sarah:

Noah, it's not Noah, cause Noah can't figure out how to do Dick online. it's definitely not him. So And I feel like Owen's of the age that he knows how to find the free porn.

Chris:

I think that it comes born into them now.

Sarah:

Yeah, and I feel like if he doesn't know how to find the free porn, I need to, I don't want to tell it. but I feel like someone needs to help him. Dude, you're 15.

Chris:

You should discuss this with his friend's parents and be like, who's going to tell them,

Sarah:

is, does anybody else have the three star enterprises? Is it porn? Are the kids, is that how the kids are getting it these days? I feel like that's not the way it should, can someone talk to Owen? Can someone explain to Owen that shit is free?

Chris:

an app for that. I don't know. at dinner did end up talking to your parents about, only fans. Is that what it is? And

Sarah:

that's the, that's porn, right? Is that always porn or is it sometimes porn or is it's always porn?

Chris:

it is, I would guess like 99 percent porn. I guess

Sarah:

Do they do the foot fetishes on there or is that like a feet only site? Is that a specific foot site? Cause I, that's what I'm really confused by.

Chris:

I think I was trying to explain like how this site worked to your dad.

Sarah:

Is it like Jan Hayden explaining to daddy they hawk to you? Yeah.

Chris:

yes, I was like,

Sarah:

Yeah.

Chris:

happens is you're online and then people send you like stuff they would like to see, and then you do it. I guess you could have the OnlyFans for a math tutor. Like I would like to see the math tutor do some algebraic equations. I don't know.

Sarah:

I would like you to start an OnlyFans page as a math tutor and just let me know how it goes. I guarantee there's some nerds out there that can be asking you to take your shirt off. Hey,

Chris:

face is all red.

Sarah:

can you do, that equation and show me your boobies?

Chris:

look at my face.

Sarah:

face is super red. Mine is not because I am me.

Chris:

you're much more used to this kind of crass talk. yeah, I'm trying to explain it to your dad and I'm like, you would ask a girl to paint her toenails yellow and she would. And he was like, wait, is that all she'll do? And I was like, dad, I,

Sarah:

Dad, Nani is here and we've, we remember how we did that, that, that game with Nani cards against the humanities. Remember how we made Mommy say things? We should never do that again. So let's spare her. Let's spare

Chris:

not nice. We're not talking. we're done, Dad. You know what it is. You get it now. Oh,

Sarah:

my. Oh my.

Chris:

which sweatshirt are you wearing? Are you wearing my, are you wearing my Attara sweatshirt?

Sarah:

I bet I am. It's going to start turning gray pretty soon. because I wear it all the time. It's my, after workout. It's my after workout shirt, especially now because I have the workout tank on, but it's cold outside.

Chris:

It is a bit nipply.

Sarah:

So when, when Machu needs to go outside and relieve himself, I have to put on a sweatshirt.

Chris:

Ew. Let's relieve himself.

Sarah:

having a tough time with his poops these days because he spent a lot of time outside on Sunday and we just let him eat the shit out of whatever was on the ground.

Chris:

gross.

Sarah:

So whatever he was eating caused his poop to turn to like stone.

Chris:

Oh, poor

Sarah:

cheer him on. We go outside and he squats down and gets himself off his legs. That's how hard he's trying to poop.

Chris:

Oh, poor little guy.

Sarah:

looking at me with his little eyes and I'm going, It's okay, buddy. Just keep pushing.

Chris:

It'll come out. It always does.

Sarah:

And it does, sometimes it hangs there. Sometimes you gotta help him out a little bit. Alright, moving along, fan mail, yeah, Kim D is catching up. She caught up and sent us an email that she's loving the episode. She's all caught up now. So we appreciate it. also got an email from Rick Z. so thank you, Dr. Rick. Rick liked, wanted to share with us that he's also a doctor and he did seven years at Penn State. So I appreciate that. I

Chris:

like everybody does seven years at Penn State. that seems like a hard one to get out of quickly.

Sarah:

I don't know. I feel Rick. I still feel like I have you beat because I did seven years at three different schools. So yeah So I've I guess we're both still doctors. So I guess it doesn't matter. So thanks. Dr. Rick I appreciate you sharing and Rick has his own business and he's like super successful. So oh, there's macho

Chris:

He's I gotta go now.

Sarah:

Gotta go Let's I'm gonna let it go he does Oh, yeah.

Chris:

Aww.

Sarah:

As soon as I get my food ready, he typically does that. Yeah. oh, yeah,

Chris:

do you wanna go let him out?

Sarah:

I think I'm gonna have to because right now I'm the only one home. So it's either we listen to that the whole time. I feel like, oh, now he's gonna bark at us. he already pooped, so I don't under, like I just took him out. That's the thing that'll piss me off. I'll take him out and I'll sniff shit.

Chris:

He's

Sarah:

All right. Can we pause? Or you can just. I mean you can go ahead and tell a funny story about me while I take him out and then I like that okay, so I'm gonna go take the dog out or you could talk about our YouTube traffic Whatever you do what you gotta do. I'm taking the dog out.

Chris:

Okay.

Sarah:

Hi

Chris:

Hi, welcome back.

Sarah:

Welcome. Welcome. Welcome back. Welcome back. I have are we still recording?

Chris:

huh. Yeah. I didn't stop it. Cause it's just harder that way.

Sarah:

Okay, I have a one more random thing to say. I feel like everybody should go to the YouTubes and watch this just so you can see my 31 year old beadling soccer hat. It's the pride and joy of my life and it will never ever get old. And I'm not sure, I don't know why I put that down. Not sure, if we told everybody how successful my beadling soccer team was. Did we share that just in case? yeah, the, what was it? 78, 79 girls, beadling soccer. One of the top eight most successful beading teams in their 125 year history. Yeah.

Chris:

I was captain twice.

Sarah:

Yeah. Yeah. you were

Chris:

I held the record for most goals scored at Elizabeth forward high school

Sarah:

until when?

Chris:

until you broke my record.

Sarah:

Okay. God, I love that stat. I love that stat. It's

Chris:

so fun.

Sarah:

It is. And I only played offense for one year. Fucking fantastic.

Chris:

And when I got to college, they were like, Oh, no, we're going to move you immediately to defense because you have the touch of an elephant

Sarah:

No, cause defense, you need to have a good touch. I played soccer with Owen this weekend.

Chris:

on the field. Oh,

Sarah:

the middle school turf field. And, yeah, turns out I don't really know how to play soccer anymore. I'm not really good at it. he was trying to have me serve some balls into him. I have no ability to say the word balls without laughing. but I have zero power. I have zero muscle left. I've nothing, I can't do it. And he was like, mom, can you just pass it over? Like one of the kids from the high school team. And I was like, yeah, absolutely. Cause he's 17 and I'm going to guess he's about, I don't know, one 60 all muscle. And plays soccer seven days a week and is going to a D1 college. Yeah, absolutely.

Chris:

Yeah, I can't.

Sarah:

Nope. Not going to, it's not going to happen, buddy. Let me throw them to you. Nope. Nope. Nope. Can't even do that. No.

Chris:

It's

Sarah:

Nope. then we did one on one cause I thought I could still defend. That's, I can do that. I fell the first time and he made fun of me and I got up and was like, you still didn't get the ball past me. The second time he was coming at me and I was like, dude, we do it this way. I pass it to you so you can come at me with speed. that's what you, that's what you should be doing. And he's okay. Okay. And then he blows past me and he was like, huh, do you ever hear a change of speed bomb? Then we had to do some little, activities that I had to sign off for his contact concussion testing. And it turns out, I think I had a concussion.

Chris:

Oh dear.

Sarah:

I was like, I can't do that. So it's a jump 180 turns in the, what? I have to jump over this line. I have to do burpees. Oh, yeah. So anyway, that's it. Enough soccer

Chris:

was. That was very athletic of you. I am, I'm trying to up my yoga game. So I went from the beginner, yoga poses to the intermediate yoga poses.

Sarah:

Ooh.

Chris:

I'm not ready. Like 30 minutes into it this morning, I was like, I haven't done a single thing except half acidly attempt every single one of these. She's Oh, it's the go crazy pose. I was like, what is it? She's take your left foot, put it on your forehead. And I was like,

Sarah:

Yeah. I feel like that's, that is the definition of go crazy.

Chris:

I was like, what? what? She's

Sarah:

Left foot to middle forehead.

Chris:

arm up to the sky. And I was like, I can't put my arm up to the sky right now because I'm falling.

Sarah:

Are we doing twister?

Chris:

I was like, left foot, forehead.

Sarah:

This is why yoga is not something that will ever work for me. I don't, I think, I don't think it will ever.

Chris:

I did, there was one I really liked, like the cross legged chair pose today, which was fun. I could get myself into that. And it was real stretchy on the big muscle behind your leg, quad, hamstring,

Sarah:

that's it's in your glute, gluteus maximus, bifidus regularis. Gluteus

Chris:

minimus. my gluteus minimus these days.

Sarah:

maximus? no. I don't really have muscle. Gluteus fattius.

Chris:

I hate Gluteus Skinneus.

Sarah:

cushionius.

Chris:

all right. do we talk about how, Elaine might have been wrong about spelling the name because we only got a couple of emails from people?

Sarah:

I don't think we should even talk about it anymore. I don't. I don't

Chris:

right. you guys know you know it. Gastergirls. com. No,

Sarah:

go. G-A-S-G-A-S-T-E-R. GIRL s@gmail.com. Gaster

Chris:

you guys know it If you don't want to send any emails to us, it's also fine. Just keep listening and telling everyone else that you like it.

Sarah:

if you have the opportunity to give us a review, like type out a review, maybe just a quick little, these girls are freaking awesome. Amazing. They're amazing. We love them.

Chris:

throw a little five star on it somewhere. I don't even, I don't even know how that works. If I'm being honest,

Sarah:

The only place I see it is on, the Apple podcast and we have far star five star ratings. Yeah. We have bunches of five star ratings. that's all we are is five, which is great. I'll keep, I'll take that, but maybe, I don't know,

Chris:

right. Anything. we're, I'm done begging. You guys love us. we're getting a ton of YouTube traffic, which I don't realize or understand. I think it was probably Rudy's advice last week about putting a cover page on it

Sarah:

Oh, did you do that? See, I don't even,

Chris:

I did. I did

Sarah:

have to look on YouTubes now.

Chris:

It's, I'm not sure I did it right.

Sarah:

I'm gonna see. I'm logging into the YouTubes. Okay, now where do I go? I don't know. Why does super nanny shit come up on the YouTubes? is our YouTube page.

Chris:

I might have been watching a lot of Supernanny videos while I was trying to do some editing. I don't know. I always liked it. I was like, I'm such a good mom. It's

Sarah:

Yeah.

Chris:

my 600 pound life in Hoarders. I'm like,

Sarah:

I'm killing it. I am fucking killing it. That's what you do. And I'm with you. I'm with you. It's the same reason I like to people watch in certain places like Kenny would. I haven't been to Kennywood in years. However, I do remember some quality people watching and me going, damn, I got this life thing down.

Chris:

still feel good about myself from the last time I went to Kennywood three years ago.

Sarah:

Yeah. Yeah, for sure.

Chris:

Yeah. That's why you see a lot of Supernanny stuff.

Sarah:

Okay. I get it. I get it. I get it. The mental fun. Okay. Let's look on there. Oh, I don't know. I don't even know how to find all of our videos. Like I am the dumbest person when it comes to some of this shit and it makes me so mad.

Chris:

if anyone is succeeding at this podcasting stuff just by accident, it's a hundred percent us.

Sarah:

So when you say the start, what did you do? You added, what did you add to it?

Chris:

I added the logo for a few

Sarah:

I see it. I see it. It worked at least on the last episode. I

Chris:

Yeah. I haven't done it on

Sarah:

and watch these.

Chris:

I don't know how to do it on the other ones. Like

Sarah:

That's fine. It's fine. We have to start somewhere.

Chris:

advanced knowledge. I feel like we have to start somewhere. It's just our finishing point.

Sarah:

That should actually be our logo.

Chris:

We had to start somewhere.

Sarah:

The mental funny bone. We're starting somewhere. Every day.

Chris:

Oh, God. all So let's talk about, let's talk about, what happened this week. so before we get to the out of dark, darkness walk on Saturday, give you guys a quick update on the fleas that Olivia lives with. they've just named all of them now.

Sarah:

I think that's a good idea. Sometimes you just have to accept it.

Chris:

she's in,

Sarah:

you should ever accept fleas. Really. I don't. I don't think there's ever a point where naming the fleas is acceptable.

Chris:

She's in a cottage with the three other girls that she likes. Everyone is spread out in there. she's got her own space to be, they exterminated again. They cleaned the carpets with a carpet cleaner this time. they deep cleaned, I haven't looked behind the toilet in that one bathroom, but last time I was there, there was like a layer of funk in there. I'm like, you. in your late teens and early twenties, you will just live anywhere, in any conditions.

Sarah:

Do you? Okay, go ahead.

Chris:

anyway, but now that I'm done being angry about the fleas, and Olivia appears to have settled in, and now I'm talking to the school about how much money we're not paying for housing, because it's completely inadequate and like living in a third world country, complete with blood sucking parasites. Now that we're just in this stage, now I'm just sad that Liv's not here. it's just sad. It's quiet. we came home from Pittsburgh on Sunday and, David had stuff to do outside, but, I did all the chores I could possibly do around here. all the chores I could stomach doing. And, that took about five minutes. And then I was just like, all right, I guess I could, I guess I could read or

Sarah:

I have, I, one of my, one of my coworkers, her son, who is, I believe 20, around that age, he's decided he wants to be a deckhand on a yacht and, he's going to deckhand training in Croatia and she's had approximately a week and a half to be okay with this. I was like, wow, that's like raising me. That's literally, outside of the fact I went to Arizona and not Croatia, but that's literally I was like, did he talk to you about it? Cause at least he did that. I just wrote my parents a note,

Chris:

Hey, see you guys in six months. I live with Sissy now.

Sarah:

but Croatia, it's beautiful. It is beautiful. However, she's like beside herself with worry and I feel very bad about it. I was trying to help her do some research and yeah. Anyway.

Chris:

oh no, Croatia looks nice. You know what it borders on?

Sarah:

beautiful. The Adriatic.

Chris:

It borders on the Adriatic.

Sarah:

the only bit of geograph, geographical, that's the word, geographical knowledge that I have is shit that borders the Adriatic, or I don't even really know it. But when you, anytime you say, do you know what it borders on? I know it's the fucking Adriatic because of Cheers and Coach.

Chris:

Albania.

Sarah:

Albania, it borders on the Adriatic.

Chris:

Its main export is wheat.

Sarah:

Yeah. I don't know that. I just know the Adriatic. Yes, coach. Love

Chris:

Sam, you just have to come up with a song.

Sarah:

Yeah. Albania. It's the only place I, yeah, the Adriatic is the only thing I'm familiar with when it comes to geography. Still couldn't tell you where it is. Like you could tell me it's in Pennsylvania and I'd be like, great.

Chris:

great.

Sarah:

Croatia is beautiful though. that's one thing I've learned. Yeah, it's absolutely gorgeous.

Chris:

if you swam from Croatia, like to the West, you would run into Italy. So it's gotta be nice there. Gotta be pretty.

Sarah:

yeah. It's very pretty. very pretty. we've decided that, should all of this go well, that, her son's gonna take us out on a yacht

Chris:

Yeah. I mean there's I After we did the little Disney cruise and there were people driving the boats for the tourists I was like, I think that would be fun to do

Sarah:

yeah. If I had that's one of those things where I'm like, fuck, I wish I would have known like you could do this shit. Like when I was young enough to do that shit.

Chris:

Oh

Sarah:

see me driving a boat anywhere, or

Chris:

I can't

Sarah:

can you see being the guide with all of the life jackets on?

Chris:

I Yeah, it's nice to think about, oh yeah, that would have been so great in my 20s. I can't even imagine, I had enough problems navigating emotionally when I went to graduate school, which was the expected next step. I'm gonna die. I'm not doing what I'm supposed to be doing. yeah, no, I, there, there was just no way my mental makeup was going to support a job on a yacht.

Sarah:

Yeah. I just really don't like boats that much, but I feel like there was other options.

Chris:

But hey, there might have been, I don't know. I wasn't going to take any of them.

Sarah:

I'm sorry that you miss, I'm sorry that you miss Olivia. That was just my,

Chris:

Yeah, she's, and, she's making grown up decisions and doing it,

Sarah:

I think Owen might actually live with us forever.

Chris:

it's nice. It would be nice. I would be, I would love it. I would love to have her

Sarah:

see the argument between me and Noah already. he needs to get his ass out of this house. And me being like, he has a job. he bags groceries two days a week. He's fine.

Chris:

Two days a week. Oh, Jesus, Mary, and Joseph.

Sarah:

He's fine.

Chris:

All right, Green Day concert. David and I decided to go to the Green Day concert at the last minute. So we got mediocre seats way, way up. Like I was closer to being able to jump off the top of PNC park than I was to anything else. But the upside of that is you get a great view of the stage and the city behind it.

Sarah:

I saw the picture that David posted. It was great. It was beautiful.

Chris:

Beautiful. Amazing. I loved all of the opening acts because they were all a bit punky and, angsty. And sometimes I forget how much I like that kind of music. Because I'm a grown up

Sarah:

Yeah.

Chris:

and then Rancid plays Ruby Soho, Ruby, Soho, and I'm like, yeah. was a day, there was a day when I did not need to be responsible that I could listen to this shit all day.

Sarah:

Yeah.

Chris:

That's not today. But it was before and, we stayed at the casino at the rivers casino.

Sarah:

you, so you stayed in the landing?

Chris:

We stayed at the landing. Yes. it? was nice.

Sarah:

It's beautiful.

Chris:

It was nice. The bar closes at like 9 30.

Sarah:

Yeah. I bet David was really happy about that.

Chris:

it was Sunday. Like I forgot that we would be there on a Sunday. And then, because I

Sarah:

into the casino and get drinks, right?

Chris:

Yeah, except for that it was also Sunday and it was like midnight. it was like after 11 when we got back from the concert and like we walked around and there were no like just bars where you could get it. I'm like, is there anywhere? I just, I'm like, there was one bar.

Sarah:

if you sat down at one of the machines, would they bring you a drink?

Chris:

I imagine that they would, but it didn't like, I was like, I just want to buy a beer. Like here's 6, like the beers aren't expensive. They're six bucks. And then you get like A whole half gallon, which is another one of my complaints. I don't need a half gallon of any alcoholic

Sarah:

thing. Yeah. I think it actually controls your drinking though, because at least my experience at the Bruce Springsteen concert, and I'm sorry if my microphone is picking up macho licking his paws. So I apologize to everyone. Anyway, you get a two gallon jug of beer. I can't, and I drink pretty fast. But by the time I get to the end of that and this is how it controls my drinking because I'm like I'm over it by the time I get to the end of it. I'm like, it's warm and I don't really want, I don't really want another one because actually drinking the second half of this wasn't even fun.

Chris:

charge me like a reasonable amount for a small drink? That way I can have three of them, have a good time and, not carry around a warm high noon.

Sarah:

yeah,

Chris:

I'm like, I don't want a beer. I don't want to get bloated. Yeah. And then I'm anyway. so great concert, loved it. Got back to the casino. And then we had another beer and then it was like, where's there's going to be a buffet, right? Like for some reason, my, little brain that had done one shot of tequila at seven 15 thought that there, that we were in Vegas. And I was like, Oh, you know what I could go for any food, any kind of food. Do we have food here? Is there food? And there's not. There's, you can go to Starbucks and that's it.

Sarah:

Ugh. That's

Chris:

I was like, how do, there's all kinds of restaurants. Nobody has, nobody wants to sell me like a egg roll at midnight.

Sarah:

to do the late night. I don't get it.

Chris:

And then I was like, I'm going to door dash something. And David's we're going to sleep.

Sarah:

I would have been with you. I would have endured it. You could have door dashed a good ass gyro, I bet.

Chris:

Something, cat on a stick from some vendor downtown.

Sarah:

Yum, yum. yum.

Chris:

But there were no midnight snacks at the casino, and I was like, I don't know who f ing gambles here. Probably people that aren't hungry.

Sarah:

Skinny people, And I've been there and I don't think that's the case.

Chris:

or, I was just having too much fun at the concert and couldn't navigate my way to the food in the casino. But I was with David, and if David needs something, he'll just grab someone. Hey, bud.

Sarah:

Yeah. Yeah, he's gonna find it. He will

Chris:

Hey, bud. Where do we get some food? And the, guy he called bud was like, Because he's menacing. I think,

Sarah:

large guy.

Chris:

being a 6'4 and like 220 pounds, you just scare people.

Sarah:

Yeah. You do. Yeah. It's legit. It is legit. Let me ask you a question about the casino. Is there still a smoking section in the casino, which is actually smells up the whole casino. So it doesn't, I don't understand the point of a smoking section. It's

Chris:

it was all

Sarah:

sections in the restaurant. I, but I think that they, I think, I swear that they changed it to a smoking section, which I did not understand. And I think back to the smoking sections in the restaurants. Do you remember that? Would you like to be seated and smoking, non smoking? what the fuck is, honestly, are you really stopping the cigarette smoke from going to the table next to you that's in the non smoking side? Like I don't, I, now, like I, it made sense to me back then, but now it, now that everything's non smoking, it doesn't

Chris:

right, none of this makes any sense

Sarah:

to

Chris:

No, I still had to take a shower when I got back up to the room because I was like, no, my hair

Sarah:

you smelled like a legit cigarette butt.

Chris:

also, I had those tiny little butterfly clips in my hair because it was a 90s concert.

Sarah:

Wow. I was going to say why, but okay. Okay. You did it. Oh,

Chris:

clips in them.

Sarah:

that's a thoughtful and cute.

Chris:

The one old lady that was behind me in line in the bathroom said, I love your butterfly clips. And I was like, thank you. I need to schedule a Botox appointment. That's what that reminded me of

Sarah:

Oh, okay. Yeah.

Chris:

like, except for, Billy Joe Armstrong, the lead singer of Green Day. He looks very smooth. And that was really the thing. I was like,

Sarah:

cause he gets the Botox.

Chris:

I'm going to schedule just a quick teeny Botox appointment, just a little smidge. Of the Botox.

Sarah:

He gets the Botox for sure. Aaron and I went to a concert. We

Chris:

I saw you were

Sarah:

James Vincent Wiley.

Chris:

James Vincent.

Sarah:

James Vincent Wiley, the front man of Van. I think that's the name of it. There's another part of it and I, I should have looked it up so I could make a good plug. But, yeah, he's, in a Van Morrison cover band

Chris:

Stop it. I love it

Sarah:

unbelievable. It was so much fun. It was a blast. And he, was absolutely 100 percent born to be an entertainer. That's just what he should be. it was, he did a great job. The singing was phenomenal. Everything was great. It was a blast. Ran into some old, high school friends, which was always awesome. And yeah. Got some milkshakes at the end of the night. Aaron ended

Chris:

oh my god. Aww.

Sarah:

It was a good time. It was a very good time. Very good time.

Chris:

Alright, I am just checking my calendar real quick. Okay. Alright. For some reason I thought I only had a half an hour left, but I don't. I have two.

Sarah:

Oh,

Chris:

Half hours. so let's talk about the AFSP Out of the Darkness walk on Saturday. Okay.

Sarah:

Yeah.

Chris:

this is the, American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. I will get it.

Sarah:

I will

Chris:

it will run off the tongue. so every, region has a, has its own walk. the out of the darkness walk is, this Saturday. It starts at registration starts at nine. The walk starts at 10 30. it's at Highmark stadium, which is where the, Riverhounds, soccer team plays. So I'll be there. I think I'm not going to volunteer for them or tell them that they have to go, but I think Jackie and Ed are going. So if, if anybody wants to come and hang out with me, Sarah can't go because she's very busy being a mom.

Sarah:

I talked to Noah this morning and, Owen, Owen has, is still dealing with a concussion. I don't think he really has a concussion anymore, but, he has, he now, has a hip flexor injury.

Chris:

Oh, geez.

Sarah:

So we're going to see tonight at a soccer game if he can play. And if he's not going to play on Saturday, then we're probably going to come to the walk. So it'll be a last minute decision for us. I figure we can register like. Yeah,

Chris:

can register there on site. Registration starts at 9:00 AM.

Sarah:

Yeah. yeah, so we will be there if Owen's not gonna play.

Chris:

Nice, nice. which reminds me that we have a couple of discussions this week and next week about, doing more interviews for bare bones banter. So that's pretty exciting. Looking forward to all of that. Anna, we're actually going to see if we can schedule an interview with, the, local representative for the A FSP.

Sarah:

Yeah, which is really cool.

Chris:

That will be really fun. anything else that we need to catch everybody else up on? Jeannie and Maggie and I got together on Friday.

Sarah:

Oh, fun!

Chris:

shout out. What's up girls? Let's get on that sleep apnea. That's what we're talking about these days. Sleep apnea.

Sarah:

and CPAP machines and shit.

Chris:

Some of it is so bad you have to have a bi pap. sucks the air in and out.

Sarah:

Oh, I was thinking like, is that like a,

Chris:

Two paps.

Sarah:

the, shoulder cuff,

Chris:

no.

Sarah:

bypass. You didn't know if you needed a bypass or a bypass

Chris:

no. It's just a two paps, pap in, pap out,

Sarah:

rotator cuff. That's what it is. Rotator cuff. Somebody said something about it this weekend. Shit, I forget someone's having rotator cuff surgery. I think she, Oh, my, my friend Shannon, her husband. And, I said, Ooh, is he having surgery on the cup or the cuff? And she went, what? And I was like, yeah, I don't know what it

Chris:

I don't know what it is

Sarah:

cup. She was like, I think it's the cup. But now that you say that it might be a cuff. And I was like, yep, I don't know.

Chris:

Nobody knows.

Sarah:

I was like, I think that I've looked it up and it's it's like the UK, I just don't care enough to figure it out. So it's just going to be a UCOP or UCOPF. It's just going to be the COPF,

Chris:

Like where is the Adriatic? Nobody knows.

Sarah:

but I

Chris:

Somewhere by Italy.

Sarah:

on the border.

Chris:

it's off of Albania. That's what we know. Come here. now we're a geography podcast.

Sarah:

Yes. Yes.

Chris:

Welcome to geography world. We are not geography professionals. We simply.

Sarah:

Yeah. And I was saying something to my coworker, about that, about, I said, I was like, it's not like he's just going to like, like a bordering state. And I had to say bordering state because I couldn't think of anything. She lives in Washington, the state of, and I have absolutely, I couldn't think of any state that bordered Washington.

Chris:

Idaho.

Sarah:

I think that's exactly what she said. And I was like, I never would've guessed it.

Chris:

it's all that borders it. Idaho and Oregon.

Sarah:

Yeah, I don't, I'd have to look in a map because I don't know.

Chris:

It borders on the Adriatic.

Sarah:

Yeah, that's

Chris:

right, let's move on. growing up, Gaster, story of the week. what is your earliest memory? I don't mean to put you on the spot. This has been in the notes for hours. Do you want to hear mine first?

Sarah:

at the notes because I've been doing shit. yeah, go ahead. Give me yours and I'll try to think.

Chris:

So when Nita and Jumbo first got married, they lived in a little apartment in California, PA. And then, when they had two nickels to rub together, they bought a house. In Richeyville, PA. So those of you who are familiar with the area, as you're driving towards Washington, there's a, there's a garden center next to the garden center, is a tiny little blue house. It was the smallest thing ever. I think my apartment in Arizona, when I first moved there was 450 square feet of luxury. This might've been 750 square feet altogether, upstairs, downstairs, and basement. It was a very

Sarah:

feel like I, I don't, I don't know. I feel like I, it looks bigger than that. it, yeah,

Chris:

it wasn't. there was a small living room and there was a dining room in a kitchen, and then you would walk upstairs and there were two bedrooms and a bathroom, I think. I don't, we moved when I was five, so I don't have a whole ton of memories. but I remember the stairs. plus I couldn't see very well when we lived there. Cause one of my eyes was real lazy and just hung out right by my nose.

Sarah:

yeah.

Chris:

So just walking into things, it's no depth perception there at all.

Sarah:

Seems real small in here. I keep walking into the walls.

Chris:

Oh,

Sarah:

what I'm

Chris:

the photographer, like Anita would have the photographer come in to take my picture and we'd be like, look over here. And I was like, I am. Oh,

Sarah:

that's your earliest memory?

Chris:

no, my earliest. so outside of there, they had a little porch and a little yard. and I remember being really young and picking dandelions in the springtime. That's what I remember and sitting on the back porch of this, tiny little house in Ritchieville and, blowing on the dandelion and making the stuff go. All over the place. And I remember Nita looking very tired because I imagine I was a, I was probably a handful.

Sarah:

and so was daddy. daddy's still a handful. she wasn't used to it yet. She wasn't used to dealing with daddy all the time.

Chris:

right. she didn't get a callus on that quite yet.

Sarah:

yeah, she was adjusting to being the wife of Jumbo Gasser and being a mom. It's a lot. It's a lot of Yeah.

Chris:

Anyway. And I don't imagine that, can't remember. I don't know. And I haven't asked her, so I'm sure she'll listen and correct, but I don't imagine that anybody was like stopping by to help her. I don't think either of my grandmas would have been really, hands on.

Sarah:

No. Absolutely not. Not like when we had babies, we were like,

Chris:

hey, someone's gotta watch this kid before I kill it.

Sarah:

Owen was telling a story about Nani this past weekend, and he was like, Yeah, my Nani would come up anytime, all the time. She would just drive up. If I was sick, she was there.

Chris:

Aww. Aww, nun.

Sarah:

was. Yeah. she was, she's the best Nani. So

Chris:

She is the best nunny. Alright, what's yours? You've had time to think.

Sarah:

I don't know if this is the early, I feel like I should know something earlier than this. Like I should remember something earlier than this, but I can't, I'm latching onto one memory and that's about it. and of course, A doozy. peeing my pants at the Presbyterian Preschool.

Chris:

Say it again. How many

Sarah:

Peeing, peeing my pants at the Presbyterian Preschool.

Chris:

Everyone listening with headphones just threw them across the room.

Sarah:

puh, puh.

Chris:

Heh, Pepper.

Sarah:

that's what I remember like that the Presbyterian preschool was like one of the first things I feel like I can remember. I hated it. I just hated being away from mommy. I just hated leaving. me,

Chris:

such a baby.

Sarah:

such a baby about it. and then I

Chris:

Wait, where was it? You Was it in like the Presbytery?

Sarah:

right across from the, post office, right by Barton's. Yeah.

Chris:

Who was your teacher? Miss Susan?

Sarah:

Pfft. Shit. I don't remember. I remember I didn't want to go there and I peed my pants, and it's another one of those smell things. I feel like I could smell it. Not that it was a bad smell, but just, it just had a very distinct smell.

Chris:

Oh

Sarah:

think I tried to hide the fact that I peed my pants too, and

Chris:

Yeah, obviously you would.

Sarah:

an easy feat. ha.

Chris:

Why are you wet? I'm not wet.

Sarah:

I don't know what you're talking about.

Chris:

Why do you smell like urine?

Sarah:

Oh, shit. yeah. I'm so not sure that's my earliest, that's just what I'm thinking now, but I figured a good P story is always a way to go.

Chris:

That good pee story.

Sarah:

Yeah, why not?

Chris:

Oh, heaven's sake. Alright, so let's talk a little mental health while we have a couple of minutes. I go to therapy now. I go to therapy now. Every week, and this week I thought what I would do is write down some things that I want to talk about in therapy and take it in a notebook with me to therapy.

Sarah:

yeah, sometimes we forget. We forget things we want to talk about, so we should write them down.

Chris:

And it was very nice because she's like, Oh, what's on your list? And I was like, Oh, I'm a bad mom. And she's okay, no, you're not.

Sarah:

yeah.

Chris:

She's first off, bad moms don't think that they're bad moms. So

Sarah:

Yeah, it goes back to that,

Chris:

you're probably all right.

Sarah:

we

Chris:

So we talked about that. yeah, I just, I can't even remember what was on the list. Cause that was a week ago. So I do remember if she was like, how about you do this? And I was like, Oh yeah, that also seems like very sound advice. I'm not going to do that.

Sarah:

Yeah, probably not gonna happen.

Chris:

We're going to have this same exact conversation, probably 12 times. And then maybe I'll do what you think I should do. And the, in the meantime, let me introduce you to my box collection.

Sarah:

All sealed up nice and neat. No need to unpack any of them. They are all nice and uniformed in there. No need to even open the fucking closet.

Chris:

she said something and I was like, oh, funny, because that box is right here.

Sarah:

Here it is.

Chris:

Still sealed. We'll get there later. She was like, you're coming back next week, right? I was like, yeah. Yeah, I am.

Sarah:

fine.

Chris:

Yes, I am. It's nice. It's nice. I like it. I didn't realize like the other couple of times I have tried going to therapy that, the relationship with the therapist, a good one would be a parent right away. I thought, oh, I'll just let this, I'll let this obvious thing that isn't working right now continue to not work. yeah, it's remarkable to me the difference between the pastimes and this time.

Sarah:

Fucking dog. Fucking dog.

Chris:

But,

Sarah:

yeah, my experience. Yeah, it's pretty obvious. I've had a couple that I didn't really drive with and, but I did the same thing. I was like, all right, maybe it's just, maybe I just need to give it a little bit of time. but no, it typically, I think that, so if I, if my therapist ever breaks up with me, I will know going forward. Oh, a boring way.

Chris:

and me too.

Sarah:

Okay, anyway,

Chris:

Wow, way to get that out.

Sarah:

I will know going forward that, I don't know if you, if, yeah, it's pretty quick. It's pretty quick. You know that you're a therapist, that you're going to jive with them. So if your first session, you're not feeling too great, odds are the sessions after aren't going to be too great and you should probably not waste your time. That is my humble opinion.

Chris:

Yes, I would concur. There are, and now that I've done it once and seen how straightforward it is to get a therapist, it was, I literally took our advice and just looked on the links and I was like, let me just, this one looks like it has a lot of people in it. I'll just call them. Oh, they take my insurance. Oh, great. and while we're talking about therapists. I have a friend and the friend and I were talking and she was like, Oh, I want to go to this particular therapist, but hold on. I'm going to cough, but they don't take, I want to go to this particular therapist, but they don't take our insurance. I'm like, make an appointment. He can't have to go outside again.

Sarah:

No, he doesn't. He is a mother fucker right now. He is. You know what I'm going to do? I'm going to unplug the absorber. That's what I'm doing. Ha! Try to ring it now. Look, you ring it now. I have it. I have it. Can't ring it.

Chris:

You're very clever way to deal with the problem. yeah, so I was like don't worry about how much the therapist cost because when we found one that we liked for Olivia and my insurance changed every three months. I just paid them and it was anywhere from 50 to 100 a session, which really isn't that different from your insurance copay.

Sarah:

Nope.

Chris:

if you find somebody that you like, they will work with you to make sure that they get paid and you get what you need. and if you're paying for it by yourself, maybe you just cut back on the amount of times you go,

Sarah:

Yeah. Or get your eyelash just removed. Evaluate your budget.

Chris:

But don't let, oh, they don't take my insurance be a barrier to finding somebody that is convenient and. And you like

Sarah:

And odds are like, if it's that big of a deal, then you gotta keep, you gotta keep looking. And, I feel like we're all very good at just throwing out excuses as to why it's hard to get into therapy. So we should all stop doing that.

Chris:

excuses, excuses abound. speaking of excuses, the yoga habit is coming along.

Sarah:

Excuse me.

Chris:

I don't, I can't believe you don't burp more on this podcast.

Sarah:

I know that might be one of the, I think I've only done it a couple of times.

Chris:

right.

Sarah:

That's weird.

Chris:

I'm just noticing it now. yes. I have an app called Down Dog, and Down Dog is awesome. you can set your level, I tried to bump it up to intermediate, probably not ready for that yet.

Sarah:

So are you doing that more than going to the yoga studio now?

Chris:

I'm doing both. on Tuesdays I really like to go to the studio, because I find it hard to get my whole house to be, 104 degrees, but they don't have any problems doing that at the hot yoga studio, so I get over there and get a sweat on. I also like going there a couple of days a week to do kettlebell classes so that maybe I start building up some muscles again instead of just being bendy. but I do find that it is like this morning I got up, did a half an hour of yoga until I figured out I'm not intermediate and then came in and started working. So it's a little bit more convenient. Again, getting back to that atomic habit of making it easy.

Sarah:

Yeah.

Chris:

And Down Dog will travel with me. and it doesn't have to be Down Dog. whatever you can do on your phone, that will travel with me. So when I'm out of town all of the rest of this month, starting on Sunday, will be able to maintain and keep up.

Sarah:

what it's all about.

Chris:

yeah. And I can report that your atomic habit of working out every day seems to be working out better for you than it is for me.

Sarah:

No, you're getting there, but yeah, I've, I work out, consistently, there's typically one day a week that I give myself off. and yeah, that's what it's literally just turned into, Oh, my alarm went off. Okay. I got to get up and get on the treadmill. Like just what's happening now. And,

Chris:

Hey, you know what they call that?

Sarah:

a habit,

Chris:

A habit.

Sarah:

right? So I'm in the habit. I got it. you scared the shit out of me. I was like, holy fuck. Why? Okay. So yes, I'm in the habit. and we recently, canceled the cleaning ladies. So we've got to get this family into some atomic habits. So I put together a little folder for the month of September and every day it has a list of things that need to be done. And, we share that list. Some things Owen does specifically every day. Noah does specifically every day. And then I do the rest of it every day. but, we've been doing that for a week now. And I think it's going to help us that I'm not going to be overwhelmed having to clean the whole entire house during the weekend. So like yesterday, Tuesdays is kitchen dining room days. So I. clean the kitchen and the dining room. Now, every day, the sinks, the counters, all of that shit gets wiped down the floor in the living room or in the kitchen in the dining room, get swept up. So there's certain things that happen every day. And then monthly we do, the big things that you don't get to, you don't have time to do weekly, and don't really need to be done weekly, but so we have a whole schedule put together that we have to check off.

Chris:

you and I are such sisters, because if you will notice on our spreadsheet, I am going to talk about AM checklist and PM

Sarah:

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Chris:

tasks that need to be done every day around here that I often forget about because they're just so mundane, right? So I have a list of AM things and a list of PM things. And. Before I go to bed, I'll just knock out the PM checklist and it's really satisfying because it's a to do list on my phone and when you click it, it makes a little like shake in your hand. It makes a ding noise.

Sarah:

It's awesome. I

Chris:

So it. goes,

Sarah:

that shit to check off. Yeah.

Chris:

but

Sarah:

through it.

Chris:

it feels good in your hand. I'm like, ding. Yeah. and I wrote in here that's like the last little bit of the atomic habits that you have to set up some kind of reward for what you're doing to make it satisfying. So for me, the simple brained creature that I am, I just like having a fully cleaned checklist.

Sarah:

Yeah. It's good. Now I just have to work on having Owen. to that folder every night before he goes to bed because his sink and counter in his bathroom has not been getting wiped down. So today I wrote a note for him in, Expo marker. What is a dry erase marker on his bathroom mirror that says wipe down counter and sink every night.

Chris:

There you

Sarah:

Or I'm going to take your phone away.

Chris:

Oh, yeah, that's motivating. That's motivating.

Sarah:

So I'm trying to, and I tried to explain to him because he's worried about his ADD and stuff. And we're going to have a talk with the doctor about it when we go. but I explained to him that one thing that we can do to help us cope is. Is checklist like it's very helpful because we don't that stops us from getting distracted because I feel like he does have that issue and I know I have that issue and I don't even think it's ADHD with me. It's just, I have a lot of fucking shit going on. He doesn't have so much like I'm trying, I'm telling him what to do 90 percent of the time. but yeah, This he's got I'm helping him get into habits as well.

Chris:

I love it. what little sister brains we have. I'm so excited. I have like little goose bumpy chills that we got to the, that we got to the same place of why don't we just. Put this in a checklist and that way we know what we're supposed to be doing.

Sarah:

Right and in our phones like I love that for you And that's the other thing I think is really important to mention here is that the same shit doesn't work for everybody

Chris:

Oh, Yeah

Sarah:

because the phone actually in this case doesn't work for me or for Owen because we've tried this with Owen. We've tried checklists on the phone and he just doesn't give a fuck about them. Like he'll get reminders and be like, Oh, okay. And I do the same thing. In fact, I've got to take my meds cause I had my medicine reminder and I ignored it. anyway, yeah, there's certain things that just don't work. So for us, And for me, and we'll see about how Owen picks things up and we'll find what works for him, but for me, I need a physical, it needs to be a physical thing in front of me. That's not just the phone because I can look at the phone and that little reminder will go away. And I, and it's gone for me, whereas our little folder out on the kitchen table is a nice place Bright red folder and it's there all the time. And I'm constantly like, the setup of the house. So I'm constantly looking at that table.

Chris:

You're right. You're right. Not the same things work for everybody Yeah, I love the checklist because I don't have to worry about like, where did I put the folder? Like I think that is 100 thing. once I close the folder. I can't remember Why I made a checklist or where it is and all I have on my like is a reminder like at 7 o'clock in the morning checklist. I'm like, oh I got a look at my checklist and as long as I do it Then that's the thing like I'm not doing anything else from 7 to 8 I'm not doing anything else from 8 to 9 at night. Like

Sarah:

Yeah.

Chris:

these are the checklist times but yeah, I think that's so funny,

Sarah:

cause I'm in my morning habit with working out and shit. And then at night, and as we go through it, like we're adjusting it as we need to, no, it was like, okay, Fridays and Saturdays are a little bit rough cause we're. Getting drunk, whatever. So we have to adjust some things. And now that we're in full swing with soccer season and we're about to start some other soccer stuff here coming up a little later in the fall and Owen has two deck hockey teams he's playing for, there's a lot of shit we have going on, so we're going to have to adjust. And we're also going to have to give ourselves some grace. That sometimes four

Chris:

Yeah,

Sarah:

out of the five days that we're doing things is going to have to suffice

Chris:

progress, not perfection.

Sarah:

So we've got to make sure that we give ourselves grace and by grace, I don't mean saying, Oh, it's okay. It didn't get done. So I'm just not going to do it by grace. it's okay that it's not perfect. It's okay that we didn't get everything done all seven days. But we got the majority of it done and we're getting into the habit of just looking at that folder and making sure that we've, we're acknowledging it and transferring that to Owen, because that's the important part is that we haven't done that with him. We don't really, he's according to. Noah, he's like the most spoiled kid ever. yeah, he's spoiled. Like we haven't, we don't really make him clean his room. We don't really make him. I opened his closet the other day and figured out that's why we can't find any of his clothes. Cause he just throws them all in there on the floor. there's literally nothing on the hangers anymore. There's there's just shit. There's just a large stack of shit in his closet. and yeah, and that's, this is where we go back to, I remember mommy needed the basket back. So I just dumped the shit out on the floor and gave her the basket back.

Chris:

Here we go.

Sarah:

Or I, the basket would sit on those steps for days. I would actually walk down, get shit out of the basket and then walk back upstairs. Instead of just grabbing the full basket and dumping it, there's a plethora of dumb shit that my kid is now doing that I used to do that I accept because I did it and I don't think I turned out that bad. it right? Maybe not, but that's what I tell Noah all the time. I was like, that's exactly what I did. but, listen, I'm fine. I'm fine. I'm actually, I'm a doctor. I'm great.

Chris:

And that's the, like the point of all of this is to be able to pass that on and be like, Hey, yeah, this shit is hard. Nobody likes to do it. here's how we make it a little bit easier. Here's how we can help you make this a little bit easier. I don't know. and I think as you, as we keep going on these habits of making sure that the place I live is organized and neat is important to me, and I didn't realize how important until it was organized and neat for a few days in a row. it's not chaos at the door. It's not chaos in the kitchen. Like 16 things on it because that's part of my am pm checklist. I'm like. Just clean the counters off. Just put that stuff where it goes, don't let shit accumulate on the bench as you walk in. Like just be neat and more organized. And that's the like, Ooh, I will mention the atomic habits. There's an app

Sarah:

yeah. I forgot you told me about it and I didn't look at it. I need to do

Chris:

No, it's nice. Cause it kind of baby steps you through everything we've been talking about. And what it does is makes you line up a value with a habit. Like, why do you want to like, and it'll only let you do one habit at a time. Cause I tried to

Sarah:

what I'm looking up now. I'm not ignoring you.

Chris:

I understand.

Sarah:

you. I'm looking up the app. Okay. Go ahead.

Chris:

it'll only let you do one at a time. And then it just gives you like little quotes from the book every day. So until you like get a whole series of doing the one habit, then it won't let you add another one.

Sarah:

I love that. I feel like that's super important because I try to do all this shit at once.

Chris:

all the

Sarah:

do any, I can't do anything.

Chris:

I'm an idiot.

Sarah:

do these 7, 000 things on my list at once. Fuck it. I'm not going to do any of them.

Chris:

exactly. But I set up one that says, Hey, here's your PM checklist. And it makes you like identify a value that goes with that, which I think, we keep talking about that being like the thing that'll make it stick. And I'm like, yeah, I do want to do my PM checklist. Not because I want. To do my PM checklist and not because I want to, I do want to click off everything on that checklist and have the phone vibrate a little in my hand. I like that. But at the end of the day, I want to have a neat and organized house. So I don't feel so nuts when I'm walking

Sarah:

say, and I feel like that kind of builds. It builds all I want to have a neat and organized house, but why do you want to have a neat and organized house? because it makes me feel better because I feel like, I'm calmer. I'm not losing my mind. there's a lot of things that go along with it.

Chris:

my

Sarah:

I was just going to say the,

Chris:

busy place.

Sarah:

There's a lot. It's definitely not on quiet. Nope.

Chris:

like my brain is busy. So the, the more, even keeled, everything else can be the better off. I

Sarah:

Yeah, for sure. Okay. The name of the app is Adams. Tiny changes, remarkable results. Press and hold to get started. I got to hold it. Jesus.

Chris:

Oh, wait till you wait, hold it. Cause it. does a little shake.

Sarah:

Oh my. Mine did not shake. No, I have all my sounds, I have all my sounds turned off.

Chris:

no. No, there's it just it's nice. anyway, the I think

Sarah:

like all that shit is turned off. I

Chris:

I love it. I love a haptic

Sarah:

reactions to the noises the cell phones make.

Chris:

the Adams app I think is free for a period of time and then you have to pay for it So they're probably just getting me hooked on it right now crack and then I'll start dishing out like I don't know 40 a month for it.

Sarah:

Hell yeah. All right. I'm going to create my first habit.

Chris:

Not very expensive at all. All right. I think that is all we need to do here.

Sarah:

Okay.

Chris:

I'm going to let you create your first habit. so I think with the introduction of the Adams app, I think we have given you guys enough motivation and I have proven to myself that atomic habits are possible. they're not easy. They're simple, but they're not easy. And I think this is a great way to identify what you want your life to look like and baby step towards it.

Sarah:

My brain was just trying to process like another, what's it like tagline? What is it with logo?

Chris:

Right.

Sarah:

So simple, not easy. And my brain said simple, not easy. Like your mom,

Chris:

Or like your mom.

Sarah:

dear God. Oh

Chris:

Simple and easy. Like your mom.

Sarah:

Ah, easy. Yeah, that's perfect. There you go. Mom. Jokes sometimes more acceptable than Dick jokes, especially on a T-shirt. I

Chris:

I love a potato. anyway, so

Sarah:

of t-shirts. One more, one more funny thing. Kim d, she went out to dinner, she told me this story this weekend. They went out to dinner with her daughter and her boyfriend, and her daughter, and her boyfriend showed up at the restaurant, Texas Roadhouse. Is that what that's called? And so it's a joints jumping. And, Anna walks in, her t shirt just simply says, fuck around and find out. Kim was like, really? She looked at her and was like, what? I got a ton of compliments on this.

Chris:

this is a great shirt.

Sarah:

Yeah. And, maybe one day. I don't know. Throw it in the notes for next week. We'll tell you about the shirt my sister bought me in Mexico.

Chris:

Best t shirt ever.

Sarah:

It legit is. I'm not I'm very mad that I still do not have it in my possession.

Chris:

Alright you guys, so now that we finish up Atomic Habits, it's time for us to say adios to season two. and move us right along to season three. right? What are we doing? What are we doing?

Sarah:

way possible.

Chris:

so we, we have another book assignment for you and we've talked about it a bunch and we've made you listen to that podcast a bunch. we are going to be diving into meditation next week. So we'll see how,

Sarah:

My hands are sweating. Like it literally just

Chris:

how that goes.

Sarah:

of meditation makes my fucking hands sweat.

Chris:

Sure, we can squeeze that in. We'll create ourselves a little atomic habit to meditate. so we're getting into 10 percent happier with, with Dan Harris, who is, I think, one of the most pure human beings on the planet. I can't

Sarah:

them up and put them in my pocket and carry them around with me everywhere.

Chris:

Honestly, I can't wait to talk about him every week.

Sarah:

Yeah, super excited.

Chris:

All right, you guys. thank you. Sissy, I love you and, I'll see you. soon.

Sarah:

Okay. Love you. Bye.

Chris:

Love you. Bye.

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