Episode Eighteen: Chris is a D*ck

In this episode of the Mental Funny Bone, Sarah and Christine navigate through their chaotic but hilarious lives. They emphasize that while mental health is a big part of their podcast, they're not experts, advising listeners to seek professional help.  (Check out those links below.)

The current episode meanders through discussions about the challenges of habit formation, particularly around reading 'Atomic Habits', and the struggle of sticking to productive habits versus succumbing to distractions. They share personal anecdotes, including their experiences at various soccer events and dentist visits that highlight their unique perspectives on ordinary life incidents. They also delve into emails from fans and friends, reflecting on the importance of mental health awareness spurred by Chef Kalina Bliss’s decision to step back from a competition for her well-being. Despite technical difficulties and minor disputes, the episode wraps with the sisters reinforcing their goal of becoming better individuals while sharing laughs and light-hearted jabs at each other.

Episode Links
https://foodsided.com/posts/chef-kaleena-bliss-mental-health-conversation-top-chef-season-21-interview-01hxfd1dm4k7

How to find mental health help when you're struggling.  https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
https://washingtoncountyhumanservices.com/agencies/behavioral-health-developmental-services
https://www.alleghenycounty.us/Services/Human-Services-DHS/Publications/Resource-Guides
Apps -  Just search mental health where you get your apps.
EAP programs are a great place to look for help!!

Additional Resources (Sports Related):
https://globalsportmatters.com/health/2020/12/04/mental-health-resources-2/

Transcript

Sarah 0:08

I don't know. Hello and welcome to the Mental Funny Bone, becoming the Gaster Girls. I'm Sarah,

Chris 0:13

And I'm Christine. A big part of this podcast is discussing mental health. But, we don't know what we're talking about. if you're here to get, medical advice on mental health issues, you're doing it wrong. There's a whole list of resources. There's a whole list of resources, yeah, and we're barely like touching on mental health stuff these days. We're trying to make ourselves better people,

Sarah 0:38

I was thinking about that. I was thinking, and maybe that's why I wrote down some of the stuff that I wrote down in my little thing here to talk about today.

Chris 0:46

right? I also wrote down one very important thing that I need to talk about with regard to mental health, but we'll get there. We'll get there.

Sarah 0:55

So all of the things that we have written down, I'm not sure we're going to get to all of them. And I'm fairly certain we're not going to get to talking about atomic habits.

Chris 1:04

Oh, no, we are because I have some shit. I have some shit.

Sarah 1:08

Oh yeah. We could at least maybe we're not going to talk about exact chapters and stuff, but we could talk about what we've done in our lives in the past week.

Chris 1:15

oh my god. No, I think you're trying to duck out There's some psychological things you need to talk to your therapist about because you are trying to duck out of changing your habits

Sarah 1:26

no, cuz I just said we need to talk about what we did. We need to talk about our actions in the last week. Yeah, no, I'm not trying to duck out. I'm just trying to tell you that I didn't read all of our homework. Okay,

Chris 1:39

let me take a poll of our audience and see who is surprised. No one nobody Zero people are shocked Zero people. Nobody. so we'll get there. We'll get there. Let's do some fan mail. so do you Hold on. I have to yawn. Sorry. Yeah, there it is. that's just how today is going. I had to go to the dentist.

Sarah 2:03

Oh, did you get Novocaine?

Chris 2:05

No, I didn't get Novacaine. They just cleaned my teeth. They just cleaned them and, it turns out if you go every six months, that's a lot less painful than if you wait two years because you're scared to go to the dentist.

Sarah 2:18

Christine.

Chris 2:19

Yeah,

Sarah 2:20

Oh. That's like against the law in this house.

Chris 2:24

I know. We've been very good about it. we've been very good. Olivia, more than me. Because I will wait until 15 minutes before the appointment and be like, no, I can't do it. I can't make myself go to the dentist. So this time

Sarah 2:39

We'll, we need to talk about that.

Chris 2:42

That's why I'm going to get a therapist. So I don't have to have you figured that thing out. yeah, so I, it's been six months and this was actually pleasant. I did having people like behind me, okay. Here trying to talk to me is very difficult and challenging like she's trying to make conversation I can't see her because she's back here

Sarah 3:06

Yeah, and you

Chris 3:07

when she's in my mouth like she's just back there I don't

Sarah 3:10

doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. It's a weird, my girl, it took me a while to find her, even though I've been at the same place forever, but this girl, I love her because she only engages with me when I don't have all of her hands and instruments in her mouth. And when she does, she rolls her little chair around and asks me a question or talks that way. she does it right. Yours is doing it wrong. Or just tell her, listen, it gives me super bad anxiety when you try to have a conversation with me. I'm not trying to be a bitch, but I'm anxious about trying to hold a conversation with you. Can you just not talk to me? We'll talk after.

Chris 3:48

I'll when I can sit up and look at you and the

Sarah 3:51

She'll actually be relieved.

Chris 3:53

I would bet the dentist is having a conversation with her. They're talking over my head, which I find, I think maybe they just started doing that because maybe they think it puts people at ease and makes me. I'm like, can you just shut up and look at my teeth? It's the day. It's the molar. It's the cap. It's the Thing down here that's given me a problem all the time. So if you could just check on that awesome If not, shut up and let me go ask her how her concert was when we are all done talking. All right, I'm done with that fan mail. Do you want to talk about top shelf? Shelf.

Sarah 4:28

would love to talk about Top Shelf. That is fantastic. I

Chris 4:34

Why isn't that? Why isn't that a bartending competition? Top Shelf.

Sarah 4:40

Ooh, yeah. Is that the name of the bartending competition? I remember

Chris 4:43

I don't know, but it should be.

Sarah 4:46

I'm pretty, there is a bartending competition.

Chris 4:49

we watched like six episodes of it. They were each 20 minutes long.

Sarah 4:52

It was wonderful. The one guy was from Montreal and I was, I happened to travel to Montreal a couple of weeks after we watched it. And I asked everybody where that guy was in every restaurant that we went to and

Chris 5:04

was on a show.

Sarah 5:06

everybody knew him, but I never got to where he was.

Chris 5:10

Oh my God, that's fucking fantastic.

Sarah 5:13

Yeah.

Chris 5:14

Top

Sarah 5:14

Top chef. So our friend from high school, crystal peers,

Chris 5:19

woo!

Sarah 5:20

what's her last name now?

Chris 5:22

Breeden.

Sarah 5:23

Something like that. So shout out to Crystal. she sent us an email, from the top shelf. Son of a bitch. Let's start over. Okay. Yay. Crystal. Thanks for sending. Thanks for sending the email. she wanted to reach out to us and tell us about Top Chef. And I believe, reading a little bit. So I'm going to be looking over here again. You're the only one who can see this, but, it was season 21. It was a second chance season. So these people had already been kicked off. I think I didn't do enough research for this and I

Chris 5:55

You're doing great. You're doing great.

Sarah 5:58

no, I'm not. No, I'm not.

Chris 6:01

Okay. Oh

Sarah 6:02

Okay. let's see. Yes. Okay. Last chance kitchen. That's what it was. That's what I was looking for. Okay. So the chef's name, I'm going to mispronounce it because I didn't watch it. I just read about it is Kalina Bliss. I know we're so popular that we're, we have, we're going to have a thousand emails of everybody telling me how I mispronounced her name.

Chris 6:23

my God. Yeah.

Sarah 6:24

So funny boners, just relax. I'm sure I mispronounced it. As you can tell, or maybe you can't tell, I listened to Red Handed this week. So that reminded me of that because they're always like, we're mispronouncing shit. I was like, oh, that's so nice that they have enough people that listen that

Chris 6:40

But tell them.

Sarah 6:41

So anyway, chef Kalina, did something that was unprecedented and it shocked everybody and she decided to bow out of the competition because of her mental health, which is pretty big, especially in the hospitality and restaurant industry. Because in reading about it, it's, and I guess I knew this, it's a shitty industry to work in when it comes to mental health. Cause nobody really gives a fuck about you or mental health. And work life balance and all of that shit. So I guess now that she has brought this up, there's a lot more talk about mental health and taking care of yourself in the restaurant industry. She in this article I read, which I have linked in our little planner for you to link in the show notes. In this article I read, she talks about how, I think it was what, in her early twenties, her parents passed away. I don't know if they both passed. Anyway, her parents passed away in her early twenties. She didn't take any time off work because she was afraid that she would lose her job.

Chris 7:44

yes,

Sarah 7:45

Her parents died.

Chris 7:46

She was like, no, I'm I'll be at work.

Sarah 7:49

Yeah. Yeah. Just couldn't take it. Couldn't take the time off because. Because she would lose her place in moving up. And I know this happens in a lot of places, but I think that, the restaurant industry and culinary things like that, they're severely underpaid and treated pretty shittily. I like that word. Shittily. Anyway, so she was talking about coming out of school and having student loans and whatnot and making 9 an hour and working stupid amount of hours. That's the other problem is the amount of hours that they're putting in order to make it anywhere. so anyway, thank you, Crystal, for bringing that up because I always love to hear about, someone bringing mental health and mental wellness. Into the light, And in this article, Chef Kalina also talked about how since this has happened, she has been approached by several individuals who are in the restaurant industry, commending her for coming forward and saying that what she did changed what they're doing.

Chris 8:54

That's amazing. I love those stories. I also can't wait until we're at a place where I can say, Hey, I need to take a break. And everyone isn't Oh, you're so brave. You're so brave. I can't wait until that isn't Like a part of the narrative anymore. Like I appreciate it and I as an attention hog love it when people tell me I'm brave and but I mean I would like to be known as someone who's like doing actual brave things like jumping out of an airplane after my good morning America.

Sarah 9:26

No, not happening. I, no. Mm mm.

Chris 9:31

but yeah, I feel like me asking to, to have some kind of work life balance regardless of what industry I'm in. It seems like a pretty low bar.

9:44

Yes. This is Chris. I am just going to take a minute here and say. Before we go on, I went off on a bit of a tirade here. Um, So I I'm, I'm taking it out and replacing it with this little snippet of me being nice. Say

Chris 10:01

Okay. Top chef. so happy that this lady has taken this courageous step and I cannot wait for the day when we can stop calling these things courageous steps. I think that is my full stop point there and everything between then and now I am going to have to. Not have in there because I don't want everyone to know I'm a dick. Just you

Sarah 10:22

can we have we have, can you save the shit that you pull out of these and maybe just once throw it all together? Like here's all the dumb shit we said and then realized we said dumb shit.

Chris 10:36

because you guys think we don't edit this at all and that we're not trying to protect ourselves But we are Like there's sometimes we say stuff that's so dumb. We can't let each other say it. So there we

Sarah 10:49

we just lose our shit and, Hey,

Chris 10:53

five

Sarah 10:54

but it's good. It's okay. We're allowed. We're allowed. We're in a safe space.

Chris 10:59

right? We're going to save space. Right? I'm going to manifest something a little later. Um, can you tell us about Aaron on Aaron? Oh, Aaron, can you fuck God damn it? Sarah? Can you can you tell us about Aaron? Aaron's email?

Sarah 11:15

I can't cause I'm crying. Oh,

Chris 11:18

Stop laughing at me. We're having a hard time.

Sarah 11:22

But you're making it super entertaining

Chris 11:25

For you

Sarah 11:26

said fuck like really aggressively into the microphone and I liked it. Okay. So uh,

Chris 11:33

That starred

Sarah 11:34

mail email. I'm just, I'm going on. I'm not stopping for you anymore. Take a drink of your water, back off. Okay, our second email of the day is also from a high school friend, Aaron O, who is more like a family member to us at this point. Aaron spends a lot of time with our family. In fact, We are going to see Bruce Springsteen in August. And, my sister who purchased the tickets is unable to go because she has to take Olivia back to school and Aaron is going to pinch hit as a substitute Gaster girl. So it's going to be me and Aaron Gaster. I'm just going to call her Aaron Gaster and Jumbo. So anyway, Aaron wanted to let us know that she's our biggest fan and that she's catching up on episodes and that she started reading Atomic Habits and then put it down because that's what we do in this family. and so now she's going to get into that and read that with us and hopefully start, Going through this little journey with us, so yay. Erin, thank you for your fan mail. It's greatly appreciated. it's the first time in a while that we had two emails to talk about, so we are fucking killing it. We are fucking killing it. So we need another person to send us an email next. it would be nice if three more people sent us an email, that would be great.

Chris 12:55

There's no limit.

Sarah 12:57

So anyway, gastrogirls at gmail. com. we are, again, we'll beg for love. please just send us a note and we'll be very appreciative. And, we'll talk about you. On the next episode

Chris 13:11

Mhm.

Sarah 13:12

and I think you are next it's not so much about fan mail, but face to face

Chris 13:17

Feedback. Feedback. We'll call it feedback. I ran into Tommy Balasheri on Saturday, and to be fair, it wasn't an accidental running, and he invited me to his home for a party, so I went. and I was, sitting down there eating graduation party chicken across from Tom, and he said, hey, how's that chicken? And then he giggled like a school girl.

Sarah 13:42

How's your chicken?

Chris 13:43

And then he asked David, he said, I bet you enjoy her chicken.

Sarah 13:47

And did David get it?

Chris 13:48

No. Cause David doesn't know. So I was like, he has no idea what you're talking about, but yes, he does.

Sarah 13:55

I think Noah knows what, knows that's what it used to be called. but I don't think he would remember. Like I know that I told him this before, but I think I tell people and they immediately try to forget it,

Chris 14:08

right. It is one of those things that you just to me, except for Tom Ballesteri, who did not try to block that out at all.

Sarah 14:16

Yeah, which is absolutely freaking amazing. And, I like to share the chicken story because I feel that everyone else in the world should be just as disturbed by it as we are

Chris 14:27

Sorry, Nita. We love you.

Sarah 14:28

in the best way. Disturbed mom. we love, and this is also a great fucking story to tell. So thank you. Thank you for giving us content.

Chris 14:36

Great. We appreciate you. Okay. Moving on. I think that's

Sarah 14:40

like when you're done with me.

Chris 14:42

Yeah, I'm done with that. It'll just save me

Sarah 14:44

Okay. Moving on.

Chris 14:45

It'll just save me the editing later. I could let her

Sarah 14:48

talking, Sarah.

Chris 14:49

I have dinner plans at 6 and we're already 40 minutes over what we plan to spend here.

Sarah 14:55

I'm hungry.

Chris 14:57

Vesta 88 with your parents.

Sarah 15:00

Oh, fine. Fine. I hope mommy gets chicken. I actually, I hope she gets C& B.

Chris 15:05

Stop the cock and balls,

Sarah 15:08

we should do that as a story later on in this episode.

Chris 15:12

we definitely will.

Sarah 15:14

Okay. Or in another episode, whenever, whatever. Okay. moving

Chris 15:17

so here's the thing. I woke up the early this morning and I was like, Hey, you don't have a therapist. And I was like, arguing with myself. I was like, no, I did the, I did what I said I was going to do. And I went to the psychiatrist and, my brain was like, yeah, but you need to make a therapy appointment. David. went to his therapy appointment, Olivia went to her therapy appointment. Everybody has therapy appointments except for you. so you should get, get on that and, get to therapy. I hadn't really thought about it since I started, seeing the psychiatrist that I should also see the therapist. I am gonna make that appointment this week.

Sarah 15:55

I feel like that's fantastic. And I would like to ask a question about that though. your psychiatrist didn't tell you that you should get a therapist or recommend anyone? Yeah.

Chris 16:10

When they ask me questions and I'm uncomfortable answering them. what the psychiatrist said was, Do you have a therapist? And I said, I'm looking for one right now. And she said, Great. Great. Yeah, you should do that. And I was like, Yes. Yes. And then she hasn't asked since. So,

Sarah 16:27

you were a psychiatrist. Do you see her online?

Chris 16:29

no, in an office. But they don't have therapy at that office. They just do medication management at that office.

Sarah 16:35

Which I think is dumb. whatever.

Chris 16:38

why we have to separate them, but we do.

Sarah 16:39

think that you should, like my therapist and psychiatrists are at the same practice. I think the practice should have both.

Chris 16:48

Yes, maybe.

Sarah 16:49

If we're going to separate them and you have to go see two different people, shouldn't they just work in the same office?

Chris 16:55

they could. I don't see any reason why they have to.

Sarah 16:59

They really should.

Chris 17:00

Again,

Sarah 17:01

go see my therapist?

Chris 17:03

no, I think I've tried to see your therapist and they're taking new patients, but not really taking new patients. And there's a whole thing with the insurance changing every six months.

Sarah 17:13

I forgot about that. Okay. So what are you doing to find a new therapist?

Chris 17:18

I think I am going to the place where, David goes and Olivia goes now,

Sarah 17:22

I think that's a great idea.

Chris 17:24

Yeah, I'm just, we're just gonna keep it all in the family. I'm gonna have to make sure I don't see either of their therapists because I feel like that would be a disaster.

Sarah 17:32

Yeah. That's not a good idea.

Chris 17:34

Let me tell you why these two are the way they are.

Sarah 17:36

when are you going to call and make an appointment?

Chris 17:40

I sent an email this morning, so they should call me back today or tomorrow. Then I'll have to fill out some paperwork, then they'll be able to give me an appointment. So hopefully I will go to the therapist in the next couple of weeks.

Sarah 17:52

That's good. Do they have the paperwork online

Chris 17:54

Yeah. Yes.

Sarah 17:55

so you can get a headstart on that?

Chris 17:57

yeah. the nice thing was I did David's paperwork and Olivia's paperwork, so

Sarah 18:02

Oh,

Chris 18:02

that, I think the reason I feel like I didn't get a Thera therapist was because I just did it for everybody else. Like I already did it twice the summer, so I feel like, I maybe. It'll be easy when I do it.

Sarah 18:17

It'll be great. It's like cheating. It's like you already know

Chris 18:19

Already did it.

Sarah 18:21

yeah Shit's already written all up and down your arm. You're ready to go

Chris 18:25

Great. I got my crib notes. It'll be fine. I will let you guys know how I do in therapy. Not since I talk about it all the time.

Sarah 18:34

I think we need to know when your appointment is for is the first thing

Chris 18:39

All right.

Sarah 18:39

you need to give us that update. We're gonna go ahead. Oh, I love the faces that you make when you're Not super happy.

Chris 18:46

You shut up. Moving on. Should we talk about other stuff that we did this week? See, what we've done here is I have tied the habit of doing a podcast with you to having an appointment at the therapy place.

Sarah 19:00

Oh, tie it together. I love tying shit together.

Chris 19:03

boom.

Sarah 19:04

Bam!

Chris 19:05

who's got an atomic habit of making therapy appointments? It's me.

Sarah 19:09

Who's killing atomic habits?

Chris 19:11

This bitch. All right, let's talk about how much soccer we can squeeze into a weekend.

Sarah 19:17

Wow, it's a lot. There's a lot of soccer, a lot of soccer in this household this weekend. A lot of soccer, a little bit of deck hockey to end our weekend. Yeah. Yeah. go ahead. talk about our soccer experiences.

Chris 19:29

Liverpool. I feel like this is again territory where I'm going to say stuff and people are going to go. What a dumb whore and either tune out or continue to listen because I'm going to make them so viscerally angry. So on the way to the soccer game, I was trying to name my favorite Liverpool player

Sarah 19:53

Go ahead.

Chris 19:54

and there's two that, whose names I recognize distantly. So there's a guy named Sala and, and there's a guy named Van Dyke, I think, cause he wasn't

Sarah 20:06

Van Dyke.

Chris 20:07

Salsa and Van Divner. and I didn't, I don't know if Van Dyke is still a Liverpool player. Cause I didn't, he wasn't on the, he didn't play. So I don't know if he was just like, I'm not going to America because that's dumb. No one there understands what's happening

Sarah 20:25

He's still on the team. I was informed of that by my child. Yeah.

Chris 20:29

Excellent.

Sarah 20:30

he, I think he was in the weird ass commercial that was playing at the end. Do you remember when we were leaving and the Jumbotron? he was a part of that. Noah said, that's Van Dyke.

Chris 20:41

Oh,

Sarah 20:41

And I guess maybe I'm going to make this up, but maybe he's in the Olympics. I don't know.

Chris 20:48

As what? Like a sprinter?

Sarah 20:50

a reason, there's a reason, I, soccer's in the Olympics, dickwad.

Chris 20:54

It's not the same for boys as it is for girls. Jerk off. Come at me, bro.

Sarah 20:59

are little, the boys are little, I forgot, they've age restrictions.

Chris 21:05

We know all kinds of stuff about soccer.

Sarah 21:07

Words so soccer dumb right now,

Chris 21:10

Anyway, so I was like, yeah, Salah, he's got to be like my favorite player, right? He seems like he scores a lot of goals and whatnot. And as people were walking past on the way, like after we got there, and I was seeing people's jerseys, I was like, Oh, there's an H, there's an H in Salah. I was like, Oh, S A L A, But there's an H on that.

Sarah 21:33

On the end, like Sarah,

Chris 21:35

Yeah, like Sarah with an H. It's Solo with an H.

Sarah 21:39

huh, I still didn't even know that, and I saw a lot of his shirts, I just wasn't paying attention. I just remember Em, Saul,

Chris 21:48

Here's the thing, Mo, also a great name. my second observation after understanding that I don't know any of the players is there, there seemed to be a lot of chants and songs that people were happily singing and there's the, you never walk alone one and then I got like big goosebumps and I was like, this is something I would very much like to be a part of, I would like to know all the chants and the songs. and then I realized that unless I'm actually going to go to a game where there are other people that it's silly for me to know the chance and the songs, but I'm really looking forward to it. And I can't wait until I go to someplace where people are passionate, like really passionate about this. Cause I think that will be amazing.

Sarah 22:36

Are you going to start watching Liverpool now?

Chris 22:38

I don't it's hard because, you got to squeeze that time in and it seems like an investment to make to, memorize rosters and stuff. I feel like my plate is full with penguins and, U. S. women's national team and

Sarah 22:53

Yeah, and I don't even really watch that unless like it's like a major event. I don't, like if it's not World Cup or Olympics, I'm really not or if I randomly run into it when I'm trying to find a true crime, something to watch.

Chris 23:06

but I'm also a little like age prohibitive of me, like picking up a new passion right now. I can't remember the name of the women's national team's coach

Sarah 23:17

Ooh,

Chris 23:18

save my life.

Sarah 23:18

I

Chris 23:22

Emily. It's Emma. It's is it Ellie? Until you just said it. I was like, Oh, no. It's she's British. Is she British?

Sarah 23:31

don't, she's English, British, UK ish,

Chris 23:34

we're not. No, I'm shutting it down. no, done.

Sarah 23:37

She's got an accent. She said she was born in England, but raised

Chris 23:43

stop.

Sarah 23:43

a, no, I, she said something, it has nothing to do with the UK, but she, there was something said yesterday during the game that I was like, interesting.

Chris 23:51

Great. But all like overall, like the speed at which these guys play soccer is amazing to me. Like the ability to receive a ball, have like just your receipt of the ball, and you are automatically in the best position you could be in to distribute that ball to somebody else or to make a play by yourself is amazing. Outright stunning to watch and I really enjoyed that for the 15 minutes I could pay attention to it

Sarah 24:19

Yes,

Chris 24:21

and then I had to have

Sarah 24:21

enjoyed it.

Chris 24:22

sip of beer I had to make comments about the crowd and then I could get back to watching it and yeah So there you are. That was my Liverpool Experience loved it

Sarah 24:34

I would like to make one, one statement, real Bettis. So just to make sure that you guys are aware to my disappointment, it had nothing to do with Jerome Bettis. It

Chris 24:46

He wasn't even

Sarah 24:47

was a very. Very sad by that, but, it's actually, it's not even real. real.

Chris 24:53

not

Sarah 24:54

Batiste

Chris 24:55

Great.

Sarah 24:55

who knew

Chris 24:56

Everybody except

Sarah 24:57

in the stadium. And I was like, Oh no. Cause the dude sitting next to us, we're talking about bad ass, but they might've just been being funny. Like I was legit. I had no clue how you pronounced it. so yeah, so that was cool. it's real Batiste. Mm

Chris 25:12

it's another actual soccer team, because in England you can have two of them that people know, or Europe. yeah. good stuff. Oh no, you froze. There you are.

Sarah 25:20

Oh, no.

Chris 25:21

No, You're back. You're back. so then we went to the river hounds, and tell me what you thought of the river hounds.

Sarah 25:28

I love the Riverhounds game. The little stadium is perfect. it's a perfect size. not too crowded. The nachos were delicious. The lady gave me free extra cheese. So five stars. We'll eat nachos here again, for sure. you seem to enjoy your wiener.

Chris 25:48

loved my wiener. it's just the cutest little soccer stadium and everyone's so excited. And there's always a bunch of little kids running around with those hootie horns.

Sarah 25:58

Yeah. Those hootie horns. I'm fairly certain. I had some of the loudest hootie horns around me and I was like, wow, I'm super glad that kid's not mine.

Chris 26:09

right. There's always one grownup going, put it down. Jacob, don't,

Sarah 26:13

that were around me were just letting their kids do what they, and I was 100 percent all for it. Go for it. You have the hootie horn for a reason. You're not whipping it around and hitting anyone with it. So I'm perfectly fine with it. You hit me in the face with it. I'm grabbing it off of you and hitting you back. I don't give a shit if you're three or not.

Chris 26:32

Jacob, don't hit the lady with the hootie horn. I said, oh, he won't twice. He might hit me once, but he won't hit me

Sarah 26:39

He's not gonna do it twice. No, boom. Anyway, yeah, so that was super fun and the little inflatable things at the beginning of the game, anybody who's never been to a Browns game, you won't know what I'm talking about, but the inflatable things were fun to watch. They did the little dance at the beginning of the game and then they did a little show during halftime and then one of them attacked me while you were eating your wiener. You'll have to be better prepared in the future to make sure

Chris 27:05

to take video.

Sarah 27:07

recording, because I can't, I don't know if I've mentioned it. One of my fears. In life is mascots or anything that's wearing a costume and I can't see their face that freaks me the fuck out So yeah, so these are this is these were people in blow up costumes and the one tried to attack me

Chris 27:29

he was legitimately standing on the chair to try to get a picture with these other people. He didn't even see

Sarah 27:34

trying to attack me. I looked up and his tongue was hanging out on my forehead.

Chris 27:41

You were

Sarah 27:41

I

Chris 27:42

underneath

Sarah 27:42

guess it's not the worst thing that could be on my forehead. When I turn around,

Chris 27:46

Especially from a horse. We'll just ask Pat Ritchie. anyway.

Sarah 27:51

Okay. so yeah, so the whole experience was wonderful. And then that guy getting the red card at the end, although I did not think the red card was warranted. I love the fact that the referee got so into it that she absolutely would not start the game again until he was in his car going home. She was like, I see him. I see him over there. He's standing by the

Chris 28:11

still here.

Sarah 28:12

in. He's here. He needs to leave.

Chris 28:15

she

Sarah 28:15

leaving. She's he's peeking around the. The door, she's

Chris 28:19

it's like a

Sarah 28:20

no. She was very invested in him getting the fuck out of that stadium.

Chris 28:24

All right, quickly, Let's talk about, Thank you. How quickly can we do Simone Biles the documentary

Sarah 28:31

We can do it quickly. I think I just really wanted to bring it up because I talked about her in the past and I think it's a really good documentary to watch. Mainly because she does all the talking in it, or the majority of the talking in it. So you really get her perspective on things. And, they played some clips of sportscasters, making some statements about her after she withdrew in 2020. It was actually 2021, but in Tokyo when she withdrew, and man, The one guy, I just want to be like, I wish this was happening now. So I could write him a letter or something. And, but then she came on and she. She was like, dude, you can't even bend over and touch your toes because that's exactly what I wanted to say. It was like, listen, you fat fuck. no, nope. You have no, I don't give a fuck. but yeah, she was like, yeah, I fuck them. I don't really care. which was a great attitude for her to have. obviously.

Chris 29:30

when you're Simone Biles, you can have that attitude. and you can back it up like the next 17 Olympics.

Sarah 29:35

Yeah. yeah.

Chris 29:36

it gets back to the fact that it'll be a great day when everyone's good job. Simone way to take care of yourself. Rock on. Wish you a speedy recovery. Hope everything, like it, if she broke her ankle.

Sarah 29:50

and that's one of the things that she brought up on there, too you know if I broke my leg and my bone I don't know this obviously aren't the exact words But if I broke my leg and my bone was sticking out of my skin, nobody would have been calling me Anything like, I would've been hurt, everybody would've been praying for me, but that's not what happened. It was something that you can't visibly see that needed worked on, that was injured.

Chris 30:16

Right.

Sarah 30:17

So anyway, yeah, it's a really good watch. I think there's two episodes, so I think it's a couple hours and it's really cool. Her husband is in therapy now. like. and he was just super supportive and they're adorable and he was going through some stuff and didn't even like really realize how much he could benefit from therapy. And so he talks a little bit about how her journey has helped him grow and get through some things. So that was really cool. Yeah. And then there's also some former gymnasts who were in that era of, 96 where, Carrie Strug had a broken leg and

Chris 31:00

actually had a broken ankle.

Sarah 31:03

like she legit had a broken bone. I don't

Chris 31:06

were like, you can do

Sarah 31:06

it was something that was really bad. And what does nuts was like, you're fine. You're fine. so yeah, so there were several people talking about just how These athletes have never had a voice of their own and just basically again Just doing what they're told because that's what they have to do to get to the next level Without any regard for their mental health.

Chris 31:29

even last night, as she's doing her floor exercise warmups, she tweaked her calf muscle and she's it doesn't feel right pushing off on it and the intrusivity of the media when these athletes are talking about their health is. Appalling like they have a microphone hanging, like a directional, like they're like trying to read lips and find out what's going on. And I'm like, why don't you just let her talk about what's wrong with her leg with their coaches? And then if she can go, she'll go. And if she can't, she won't like the hell. And he's Yeah, And we all remember what this looks like with Simone Biles walking off the floor. And I'm like, What a cock! Shut up!

Sarah 32:17

She did this By the end of the night, she was like, yeah, suck

Chris 32:21

I'm sorry. Number one all around. Yeah, thank you. Let's

Sarah 32:25

me in my 27 year old ass show you up motherfucker in my super pretty glittery Leo, which I learned from the documentary. That's what they called their little costumes. Their little leotards. They're Leo. So adorable.

Chris 32:39

right, I can't. Anyway, I was disgusted last night, but super, super engaged with the Olympic performance of these people. So who can not love the Olympics? there's so much like the one girl is supposed to come in second. The one swimmer is supposed to come in first. The one girl comes in first and everyone's she's yeah, I've been finishing second to this bitch my whole life. And now I get to be first here at the Olympics. so much drama,

Sarah 33:07

watched volleyball today. no, because I worked, I listened to volleyball, watched a little bit, just in passing, volleyball. I love volleyball. So that was fun to watch and very intense and nail biting. and I also watched shooting today. Oh, again, I didn't watch it. I just listened. and it was, I was even like, Whoa. And I, the rowing just makes me tired watching it. it's just amazing to me and Stop what you're doing.

Chris 33:37

I'm working. I had to send a message. I'm done now.

Sarah 33:40

Okay.

Chris 33:40

The rowing makes you tired.

Sarah 33:42

Yeah. Sorry. I can visibly see that you're irritated now. So let's move on.

Chris 33:46

I'm not! Okay, here's the thing. I have to leave to meet your parents in 30 minutes. We have roughly 47 minutes of material here.

Sarah 33:56

Okay.

Chris 33:56

And I'm a dick.

Sarah 33:58

Why?

Chris 33:58

Because. I'm like, we have to go! Again,

Sarah 34:04

when it's five hands downing, downtime.

Chris 34:07

I think the best option is for me just to lock myself in a room. And so it's all done. so sisters of 96 and the 96 effect. I would love to keep talking about that, but let's put it on. Let's put it on next week's.

Sarah 34:20

Okay.

Chris 34:20

let's talk about our 1st memory of overwhelming heartache yours. Anyway,

Sarah 34:26

I don't, I just wrote that cause we didn't have a growing up gastro story and I was trying to bring it back to mental health kind of stuff.

Chris 34:33

I think this is probably a good 1. growing up gaster. Where were we? Do you remember where we were?

Sarah 34:39

I remember where I was. I don't know where you were. I don't know if you were with me or not. I don't remember. We didn't have school that day. Was it Columbus day or something? Was

Chris 34:47

I think it snowed

Sarah 34:48

Yeah, it was cold. What was the date? I know it was 86.

Chris 34:52

like February, January.

Sarah 34:54

that's what I was thinking. Hold on. Let me see. Yeah. January 28th, 1986. So we didn't have school and mommy had to do something. I don't know what she had to do. I was what? Eight, eight years old, nine.

Chris 35:10

Was she working?

Sarah 35:11

I don't know. but I was at the, I was at the Leshaw's.

Chris 35:15

same, so was I.

Sarah 35:17

Okay. So yeah, you were there. I don't even remember you being there,

Chris 35:21

That's because I don't remember you being there either.

Sarah 35:24

sidebar, I listened to 10 percent Happier podcast about memory this

Chris 35:31

Oh, I have to

Sarah 35:32

very, interesting.

Chris 35:34

tune in. Is it the same thing about the stuff that it gets attached to and the fact that it's completely unreliable?

Sarah 35:39

Yeah, just like, it's about how we're all a little bit too hard on it. There's a lot in it, but like the things I grabbed onto was one, like we're all too hard on ourselves. Like we're not supposed to keep everything in our brains because if we did, they would look like a hoarder's house and who wants to have a brain of a hoarder?

Chris 35:56

Oh, God.

Sarah 35:57

certainly don't. So yeah.

Chris 36:00

It's

Sarah 36:00

So I'm really good at making space. anyway, but then it also talked about how when you tell stories, each time you tell them, you might add something onto it and then you continue to tell it. And then you end up like us at the ages of 46 and 51. And we tell stories and we currently preface them with, I'm not really sure if this is true or not, but I know that something like this happened. Something started like this. I'm not sure that it really totally went this way, but this is how I'm gonna tell it.

Chris 36:35

something similar to this is what went down. Cool. So we were at the same place. were you because I remember I was watching the Challenger on the downstairs tv.

Sarah 36:46

we were in the same fucking room cuz that's exactly where I How funny is that? Yes, I specifically remember they're, the downstairs with the bar and the pool table and everything, like there, it's a very distinct location.

Chris 36:59

Yes.

Sarah 37:00

I love the fact that we hated each other so much

Chris 37:03

just

Sarah 37:03

that we don't even remember that we were with each other.

Chris 37:07

from every memory. Yeah, it was definitely there. it was me, you and Sammy. I don't remember. Maybe Renee.

Sarah 37:18

I don't remember. I remember Sammy being there. I don't remember anybody else.

Chris 37:22

Yeah, it might not. It might not have been Renee. But yeah, we were definitely there. What was this, 86? I was in 8th grade.

Sarah 37:30

Yeah, I don't know what grade I was in.

Chris 37:31

You were in 3rd grade ish?

Sarah 37:35

Mrs. Delamay?

Chris 37:36

Aww. Anyway, yeah, that is super funny that I was like, I'm pretty sure you weren't there. I couldn't have,

Sarah 37:43

Yeah.

Chris 37:44

wow. so this is, everyone's oh, we have to watch it, it's the teacher, or whatever. They're sending a teacher up and they were always, I feel like the space program at that point was just trying to get us to watch something like, oh, we're sending a teacher. Oh, it's a monkey. Oh, it's a lady. Like whatever kind of cool thing they were sending up into space. They were like, you guys should tune in. Um, And I remember it here's I'll go first. Cause mine is a lot less traumatic than yours. and I was like, oh, wow, that blew up. And then listening to it and I'm like, oh, wow, that blew up and those people actually died. I wonder if Gina's gonna feed us lunch. this is the kind of impact it had on me. I was like, wow, that's tragic. Still am hungry though, so I hope someone's coming down here.

Sarah 38:29

Hope there's mac and cheese on the way.

Chris 38:32

Somebody's bringing me a grilled cheese pretty soon. that is exactly how much impact that had on me. I was like, ooh, that's sad. I'm probably gonna remember this for a long time. Sammy, isn't that sad? Should we shoot pool?

Sarah 38:45

What should we do? Let's do something. That's great.

Chris 38:48

Let's turn this off. And then I went on with my life and everyone around me was like, Oh, it was very sad. Yes. It was very sad. It's very sad. We had grilled cheese at the Lisha's. So

Sarah 39:00

I wish I remembered what we did eat for lunch.

Chris 39:03

I'm pretty sure it wasn't grilled cheese, but I was, just as happy to, I don't remember it having a big effect on me other than it was a major event and I can remember where I was when it happened, but I didn't feel particularly sad or any other way about it after it was over. Your turn. Do

Sarah 39:23

I think this should have been like my first, this is pretty much how I've handled all tragedies. I get stuck on them and then I obsess about them and I cry about them. And talking about thinking about like I've watched, I don't, I think it was a recent Netflix. I think it was Netflix documentary about it. Like it still makes me tear up. It still makes me sad. but that's what I remember. Just, I don't remember like that specific being there. And what I was thinking, but I remember the aftermath of it, like coming home and watching the news and thinking, maybe that little thing that like flew up, flies off, like something, there was a little capsule that they could be in. Like maybe they made it off there. And then they like interviewed, what's her nuts, his parents, Krista McCullough. Is that was her, what her name was? they interviewed her parents and that was like super sad. Like I remember that. And then I just remember that's just, it was just a loop in my head at the age of nine about how sad it was and like how she had kids at home and how sad they must be and how sad her husband is and how sad and how awful it was that they all had to watch it. Like all of the things that I'm sure. A lot of people thought like for a second, just kept going. And then we got the next day in the newspaper was the picture of all of them standing there. their astronaut picture, they're all there with their helmets and everything. And I cut that out and I had a little frame. I don't, it was something like my little ponies frame or some shit. And I put that picture in there and put it in my room. cause I wanted to remember them. Yeah,

Chris 41:05

Yeah, you had a lot of a harder time getting past it. we were telling jokes the next day in school,

Sarah 41:11

I'm sure I was. I'm sure that I functioned like a normal human being,

Chris 41:15

but I didn't do any of that.

Sarah 41:16

that's

Chris 41:17

picture of it.

Sarah 41:18

That's the first time I remember being like fucked up.

Chris 41:23

you're looking around at everybody else's reaction going, we're not, everyone isn't cutting it. You guys aren't just reliving it in your heads. Overnight. No,

Sarah 41:33

And that's pretty much what it was like. I had trouble getting to sleep. Like I would just cry at nighttime at bedtime. Yeah.

Chris 41:42

no, I don't. A, I didn't do that. B, I don't remember any of that. Were we in the same room? We couldn't have been in the same. we might have been in the same room because

Sarah 41:52

might have been.

Chris 41:54

I cared so

Sarah 41:55

and it's not

Chris 41:55

for you.

Sarah 41:56

I was like eight or nine, right? What? Nine, eight. I can't do my fucking math. But anyway, so it's not like I was like running around the house crying and like having a legit mental breakdown of any sort. I'm sure mommy talked to me about it. I'm sure they told me I was, everything's fine. Everything's fine.

Chris 42:17

Just like

Sarah 42:18

so

Chris 42:18

on the internet these days where, yeah, we watched this, the teacher just rolled out the TV from the room and we did a geography later that day.

Sarah 42:26

Yeah. So it's not like it was like a big deal in our house. It was just in my little tiny brain.

Chris 42:33

God bless your little tiny brain. yeah, we should have been able to, and maybe that's the good thing about it, the stuff that we're trying to do, like shining a light on mental illness and things that are it, that normally in our generation, we just would have skipped over and been like, everyone good. Great.

Sarah 42:52

Okay. Moving on. Moving on.

Chris 42:56

now there's a, there's counselors available and maybe a lot of the narrative that we start having with the children is about, Hey, are you not? Okay. Or are you? Okay. There's a commercial in the Olympics where the mom and the dad are like, are you having fun?

Sarah 43:12

Yeah. I saw that and I loved it. I think I made a mental note, which I forgot. but I wanted to talk, I wanted to mention it. So there you go.

Chris 43:20

So maybe the good part about shining a light on all of this stuff is that you don't have to suffer like that by yourself anymore because somebody will be like, hey, are you okay? And you can be like, no, I am NOT. I am NOT. I am having an inappropriate, disproportionate reaction to this thing everyone else seems to be fairly cool with.

Sarah 43:38

Yeah. Yeah, and I don't think, and I know that we've said it before, it's no fault of like our parents or anything. It's just that's how it was. It's,

Chris 43:47

right?

Sarah 43:47

they weren't, like mommy when you listen to this, I'm not even sure that you knew that, like that I was that sad

Chris 43:54

No.

Sarah 43:54

it or affected in any way. I'm guessing that they didn't.

Chris 43:58

These would be the last people I would tell I was feeling sad in elementary school. I'm not going to create a fuss. No, it, yeah, it has nothing to do with parenting style or anything. It's just the way that it was like, you just don't talk about that stuff. You're fine. You're fine. it's the same way with riding, or riding bikes and wearing helmets. Like it just never would have occurred to us to put a helmet on. and now we've wouldn't even dream of letting our kids go out riding bikes without helmets. So. not the most entertaining Growing Up Gaster story of the week, but one I think pulls us back to, our original intent here. Also, I have to do a follow up to the Growing Up Gaster story of the week last week, where I went and watched that YouTube video about Kennywood. And

Sarah 44:44

yeah.

Chris 44:45

just the serotonin I get from watching and listening to Rick Seebeck talk about Kennywood from the 80s, I'm like, I'm there. I'm there. I can smell it. I can smell the raging rapid smell, moldy gym shorts. Anyway,

Sarah 45:01

deck hockey rink.

Chris 45:02

anyway, so that is a growing up gastric story of the week. All right, mental health. So let's

Sarah 45:08

I would like to go back and say that I do think it was funny that we were both in the same spot for that memory. And neither of us knew that we were there and it's not like they had a huge ass basement.

Chris 45:18

now. the room was like eight by eight. Like the room where the TV was eight feet by eight feet. We definitely could have touched each other during this Challenger disaster. And yet we were like, were you there? I don't even remember you

Sarah 45:33

Still don't have a clue that still not. I'm trying, my brain is actively trying to dig that up. There are little people in there right now with little shovels, digging. And I can't, no, they're giving up.

Chris 45:46

yep, they're like, she wasn't there. She lies.

Sarah 45:49

she's lying. She's fucking lying.

Chris 45:52

I don't know where she was. She wasn't there. She lies. Oh, brains. Brains are so fun. All right. So let's talk about how we can use our brains to be better people so that we can remember our siblings are in the room when disasters happen. so last week on Atomic Habits, we talked about habit tracking. Oh, get it all out. Get it all out. And how habit tracking is a way to take a look at kind of identifying the habits that you're in right now and the ones that maybe you want to change that aren't serving a purpose. I'm also going to talk again about identity driven habits. So thinking about the person that you want to be and finding ways to be that person, is often a better solution and a more sort of value driven way to come at these things, rather than saying, I don't want to, I don't want to be a smoker anymore, or coming at these things. Like I really need to make healthy decisions. Like it's all about the habits that stick with us are the ones that are based on our identity. with your face.

Sarah 46:58

Yes.

Chris 46:59

So that is the perspective I took this week was I would like to be someone who makes good, healthy decisions about what happens to my aging, rapidly aging body. So there is my identity that I am going to try to work on for the next habit, habit, atomic habit book reading time.

Sarah 47:23

Yep.

Chris 47:24

And here's where you say what you're going to do.

Sarah 47:26

Oh, I thought I did last week.

Chris 47:28

You have to say it again, because no one paid attention to you last week. And by

Sarah 47:32

am a healthy person

Chris 47:33

me. Oh good, we're like the same.

Sarah 47:36

yeah, I said it on the episode last week.

Chris 47:38

I don't remember.

Sarah 47:39

the good news is it's recorded and you can listen to it.

Chris 47:43

I'll go ahead and download it now. Who's listening in Fredricktown? Oh, it's me again because I wasn't there when we recorded it. Oh brain. Oh brain.

Sarah 47:54

Oh, that's good shit. That is good shit right there.

Chris 47:58

All right. So let's talk about our habit trackers. Um,

Sarah 48:01

As she yawns.

Chris 48:02

me get this yawn out because that's how I feel about the habit tracker. This is one of the worst things you can ask me to do because it's so fucking boring. I want to You Die. It's boring, and it's, it reminds me so much of my nutrition tracker that it's almost, I know these are bad habits. I already know that the three hours I spent looking at dumb shit on the internet wasn't the most productive time I could have spent.

Sarah 48:25

See, this is where I failed, because I thought I was doing like a really good job and then I read through the couple of days that I did it. Hold on, there's a little froggy in my throat.

Chris 48:35

Oh no, don't drown him.

Sarah 48:38

Oh, he's drownded. See ya. Poor guy,

Chris 48:41

He'll be

Sarah 48:41

he'll have a funeral for him later.

Chris 48:43

Saints preserve

Sarah 48:44

I'll worry about that little frog all day or night, whatever the fuck we're doing here. I'm looking at my list right now and it turns out that I really did. I think I really just tracked things that were good, but I don't like, I don't know. I think I need to start over because I literally just wake up, brush teeth, shower, fix hair, whatever. Make coffee. Turn on GMA. Start work. Check email. Start laundry. Take Owen to soccer. Switch laundry. Pick up Owen. Make eat breakfast with Owen. Take meds. Vlog meds. Fold laundry. Make bed. Put clothes away. Check GG emails, which is Gaster Girls. Run dishwasher. Like those are all the basics. I don't think I really was like, I don't know. Also, like I could be working on something for work and have a thought and then get onto Google and look up whatever that thought was, read about it and then go back to work, which I feel is like the shit I need to identify, but I wasn't going to stop and write down for one minute. I looked up. Why Rose jumps all over your shit when you're podcasting?

Chris 49:53

Yeah, it's a mystery. She's doing it now because she's trapped in this room.

Sarah 49:57

Yeah,

Chris 49:58

Look how cute her hair is though. Oh hello, Rose. the, the part for me was at 8 o'clock in the morning. I log on and I read 2 emails and then I flip over to, something else. And then I come back and do 2 emails. And by something else, look at dumb shit on the Internet. That just popped in my head. And it turns out I do that 15 times a day. and then by the end of the day, I'm like, I guess that's enough of the work. I'm exhausted, but I've looked at five emails and spent a total of four hours looking at dumb shit on the internet that I didn't need to, Last week, I had to register for a conference. So necessitates a visit to the Internet. So registering for the conference. I also found out that my membership in this society that has sponsoring the conferences lab. So now I have to redo my membership. So I do that. Then I have to go to my email to get a code to log back in because now I'm a member in my price is different. So I go to my email and then 14 emails later after I've, figured out that Glamnetics is having a sale on the nails, get back, go back to that. with the task that I thought would take. An hour max, it took me three hours because I had to go through the rigmarole and then my registration won't work for some reason. So then I have to email the guy. Now I have to go back to my email as I'm doing that. Three new emails have come in for me to check. So what is that? I'm like, okay, some part of that was good. Rose don't rub your

Sarah 51:38

I think

Chris 51:40

part of that is

Sarah 51:40

need to

Chris 51:42

that's a positive habit. Losing focus and searching for shit on the internet. That's a bad habit. I don't need to do that. And I have control over that because I will go there and be like, I forgot what I was doing. All right. instead of doing eight other things, go back five seconds and figure out what you were supposed to do. Rose, do you hear this? There we go. So damn it, Rose. So I think looking at that and then in the morning, just going back to bed instead of going to, Yoga, I was like real guilty of that last week.

Sarah 52:14

Yeah, I didn't get up and work out at all. Like I wanted to

Chris 52:18

So

Sarah 52:19

But I did work out today

Chris 52:21

I'm gonna I'm gonna take the habit tracker for what it is the same way. I take my nutrition tracker for what it is I already knew I was pretty fucked up. Like I already knew I wasn't doing what I was supposed to be doing So why don't

Sarah 52:34

knew that eating three Big Macs in a day was not a good idea.

Chris 52:38

already knew so why don't we? Why don't we revisit habit tracking in like a week when we're You know, in a slightly different headspace, we'll come back to it and look at our habit trackers and be Like, there it is. Here's some good things that I've already added.

Sarah 52:53

and that's what I, there's a couple things I want to add and I also want to maybe put some restrictions on myself because I, like you, like I said, I get distracted. Like I'm working and I'm like, oh, wait a second. I wanted to look that up. So it, you said something that makes a lot of sense that I think I forget about. We have control over that. I can, if it's really important, I can write myself a note and look at it when I'm not working.

Chris 53:20

right?

Sarah 53:21

I can shut down my personal email and set specific times that I open them and give myself 10 minutes to look at them.

Chris 53:30

Mm hmm.

Sarah 53:31

there are positive things I can do to make sure that I don't go off on these or down these rabbit holes that lead to wasting a shit ton of time. There

Chris 53:41

much more time in the day. If you do that. yes. And then we can say, hey, I've consolidated the. Internet. fluffy shit that I was doing that was taking me three hours every day. And, now I do that at, the Vyvanse time when I can't be around people, but I'm not really working anymore. Then I bundle a couple of things together. So let's talk about, let's talk about next week and let's talk about cues and how we make some stuff obvious. So last chapter that I spent a lot of time in. is about making it obvious and creating situations where it's obvious that you have to do the habit. So he's got a couple of really good techniques in the chapter about that. Like when I X, I will also Y or at this specific time, I will J or whatever. So when I wake up, I'm going to work out. When I wake up, I'm going to put my workout clothes on before I head into the kitchen. And that way I'm a lot less likely to go back to bed because I'm already wearing a pair of pants that's too tight for me to sleep in.

Sarah 54:50

True. True that. True that. If I could just get my feet on the floor in the morning, I feel like that's As simple as I have can start right. And I just have to put my feet on the floor and promise to not lay back down.

Chris 55:04

that's part of it, but it's like, for me, also so easy to be like, I'm going back to bed, feed up off the floor, that's me.

Sarah 55:12

and I did put my clothes out last night because I was going to get up and work out first thing, but of course I didn't. But then a couple of things happened this weekend. Like Owen had, soccer fitness training on Saturday morning at 8 and then he had soccer practice on Sunday at 8 a. m. And he will have that for the rest of the summer. And that kind of sucks because that's a shitty time, but I got up, I took him while he was doing his stuff. I walked. So I got my exercise in both days. I walked two and a half miles on Saturday and four and a half miles on Sunday. yay me. But also in this, I noticed that my kid is out of shape. so this morning when I picked him up from high school soccer practice, he had told me this weekend that he wants to do a little more than just, the scheduled practices that he needs to do more. What am I talking about?

56:06

Hey guys, it's Chris again? Um, I'm just gonna jump in here for a second and say, this is where Sarah busted me not paying attention to her. While she was talking like, like a Dick. I'm just going to cut out a lot of the part where she busts me for not paying attention. And I try to say some things to make up for it and skip right to the part where, um, Where I talk about what I wanted to talk about. So, sorry, Sayer.

Sarah 56:37

Okay.

Chris 56:37

All right

Sarah 56:38

finish her up. Talk about what you want to finish up with.

Chris 56:41

That's it. I've Nothing I'm a dick. That's what I got I'm gonna feel bad all night and then we're gonna have to record this one again because I've been a complete asshole the whole time

Sarah 56:52

We do not have to record again. It's fine. I think we're at an hour and 15 minutes. So

Chris 57:01

So what changes are you going to make? Practical changes are you going to make this week to try to create a situation where your new habit of working out first thing in the morning or working out in general is a part of your routine that is not invisible. How are you going to make it obvious? That's my

Sarah 57:24

I'm going to make it obvious, I'm going to make it obvious by well, what I did last night, but it didn't work. So I'm going to have to figure out another way because I set my clothes out and I still didn't get up. So what I'd like to do is get my feet on the ground. that's going to be as soon as my alarm goes off, I can't touch my alarm. I can't do anything until my feet are on the ground. And then once my feet are on the ground, my clothes are right there.

Chris 57:52

I love it. On the ground, feet on the

Sarah 57:54

that is going to be feet on the ground, clothes on my body, ass on the treadmill.

Chris 58:00

I am going to get dressed before I go into the kitchen to make the coffee and the lunch.

Sarah 58:05

I think that's a good idea.

Chris 58:07

Because if I'm dressed, there's really no point in going back to bed. I've already done all the hard stuff. So I will get dressed, then I will go and I will make the coffee and the lunch. And once I've made the coffee and the lunch, I can either decide to go back to bed like a douche, or I can, just head on out the door to yoga class at 530. Being a healthy person, that's what I would do.

Sarah 58:31

I feel like you're gonna go to yoga class.

Chris 58:34

I'm going to go to yoga class. I feel like you're going to get on the treadmill,

Sarah 58:37

I am. I am.

Chris 58:39

the important part is you got to get your feet on the ground. My important part is I have to put the clothes on and then the habit will follow from there. And that is a tiny little thing to change, right? That's the point. Like

Sarah 58:52

Super tiny.

Chris 58:52

alarm goes

Sarah 58:53

Super atomic.

Chris 58:55

Alarm goes off, feet go on the ground. Alarm goes off, clothes go on before I do anything else, and that way you can't you've already established a little bit of momentum.

Sarah 59:05

Yes. Momentum is good.

Chris 59:08

Exactly. All right, next week we're going to talk about setting up positive environments, and that'll wrap up part one.

Sarah 59:14

Yay.

Chris 59:15

So

Sarah 59:15

Will you eat something fried at the bar for me?

Chris 59:17

yes. I'm probably going to have a lot of recording now.

Sarah 59:23

Yay. That sounds so, I would like some wings. Okay. Love you. Bye.

Chris 59:28

no, wait, I'm gonna tell you I love you because I was a dick all, all time here and I do love you. I appreciate everything you're saying. I'm just struggling,

Sarah 59:38

hanging up on each other.

Chris 59:39

right? But I felt it was important for everybody to know that I love you and I know I'm a dick. All right. Love you. Bye.

Sarah 59:48

Love you. Bye.